What would you do if you were in a relationship for 5 years and your both unhappy but still love each other.?

Answer 1

It time for a trial separation, Try it! Can you see each other dating other people? Maybe you were just ment to be friends.

Answer 2

That happened to me....I was in a relationship for two years and we knew we both loved each other but at the same time we were both so unhappy. If you both love each other then you need to let each other go. It is possible to love someone and not be IN love with them. You want your lover to be happy right?....then let them go. Take some time "off" from one another and if it was meant to be then they will come back.

Answer 3

If you are in love and you truely want this relationship to work then I would suggest seeing a family counselor. Maybe they could help you figure out what is making the two of you feel unhappy and find a solution to get your relationship back on track.

Answer 4

No one else is responsible for your happiness if you can't find it within yourself then I doubt very much if you acutally love this other person. It sounds more like just not wanting to let go of the past five years and admitting things are over. If the relationship were that important to me I would look at it from all angles and figure out what to do to make it work. I would also look very deep inside myself to figure out what it was that made me happy in this relationship in the first place and then I would bring that forward. If there is nothing there then it probably wasn't love to begin with.

Answer 5

You need to find out why you're both unhappy, and try to resolve the situation. Obviously, love isn't enough. If you're unable to resolve the problem, then it would be better to walk away, and find people that you can love, but also be happy with in a relationship. Best of luck!

Answer 6

Sorry to say, but love is not enough. If you are unhappy you need to end the relationship. Try to end it on good terms since you obviously care about them. You may have a really good friendship, just not a romantic relationship.

Answer 7

If you love each other there will be some 'scrapes' but you won't be completely unhappy. You may need to do some "soul searching", because the love just may be gone. But first take some time off from one another and see where it goes...

Answer 8

Love should equal happiness or at least some level of satisfaction. If it does not, then, maybe it is not really love but some emotional dance that might be better ended.
Change is hard at first, but perhaps you should work on loving yourself first, then find someone who also also loves them self.

But before you even speak of love, look up the many definitions of love (web search) and find the kind that best fits what you are looking for.

Answer 9

I would do whatever it took to save my relationship. As long as you 2 still love each other anything is possible. Get counseling, see a minister, whatever it takes. Your love for each other is enough to build on, so get some help and save your relationship. It will be well worth it!

Answer 10

Get counseling if you truly love one another and want to save the relationship.

You've been together long enough to have worked out ways to deal with common issues. If those aren't enough to work out the unhappiness, go to a professional for guidance. It can be your church if you're religious, it can be a professional marriage counselor, whatever works for you.

If you want it to last, you have to be willing to work for it.

Answer 11

Get out, you are comfortable, that is why you stay together, but the longer you wait the more chances you have to find the right one will fade. It is hard to walk away but that is the best thing. Try doing diferent things in a way that you will new people. That right person is out there but you have to make yourself visible