My wife and I have been married for 4 years. Before we got together she had a very active sex life. She has tried lots of different things,but I have not and I am wanting to do some of the things she has already tried. But she has no desire to do those things any longer. Just wondering if anyone else had any ideas or thoughts
2007-02-09 01:01:33 · 17 answers · asked by dave6035 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have 2 jars in our bedroom one for me one for him
we both jot down things we want to try and when we need to spice it up and have the time we take out one and do it
its a nice change
2007-02-09 01:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Buy some sex toys and have fun. Try a sex swing too. Ask her what she has not tried or done. Tell her to come up with some new and good and fun ideas. Have her strip for you and give you a lap dance and things like that. What do you mean she had a very active sex life? What all did this entail if i may ask? Buy some sex board games. She should have a desire to please you in bed and do fun things with you. This concerns me that she will not do them for you. I wonder if she is bored or if she is already being unfaithful to you. She should have plenty of thoughts and ideas for new things as she is so experienced in this area. Take her to an adult book store and you and her pick things out together to try . you get some things that you want and you get her things that she wants. I love orgasm beads and fun things like that. I also love couples toys. Maybe she would be into role playing or fun things like that.
2007-02-09 02:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk openly and honestly with your partner about things you'd like to try, things that interest you or sound exciting. Get her to share the same things with you. Then work out a common ground of things to do together.
Keep in mind, the things she's done and you haven't, that sound so interesting... may be just due to you having not ever tried them before. The "new or taboo" stimulus is pretty strong in sexuality -- we always want to try things that are new or have some air of the "secret" or "forbidden". If she's tried them before, she may have found that those things aren't all they are cracked up to be!
Be willing to be open and honest, negotiate some common ground, and see if there aren't some games that both of you would enjoy playing.
2007-02-09 01:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like that 2 jars idea.
The problem in my case is that I happily go along with whatever my wife wants but when it comes to what I want she either just says no or she will do it with such an obvious lack of enthusiasm it is a total turn off.
I am in the same boat as you, dude.
2007-02-09 01:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the local sex store together, pick out some new toys. Tie her up or let her tie you up. Tease whoever is tied up, make them beg for your touch and a blindfold to really spice things up.
2007-02-09 01:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by tiemetight814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk, Talk, Talk, Talk, Talk , Talk, Talk.
The only way to spice up your sex life is through having a very open and honest discussion about what your needs are.
Only through establishing understanding our your mutual needs can you move on to focus on meeting them.
Good luck
2007-02-09 01:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by Bob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
handcuff her to the bed smother her in cream and lick it all off make her beg for it before you give it her shell be smiling both ends for a week and will hopefully let you try something shes already done
2007-02-09 01:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by 0000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow! I hope you are not talking about a third person . that is a sure way to end a marriage. any who if you want to get her to try something new you need to get her really in the mood. Try arrousal cream something like o . do what ever it takes to make her want what ever you are offering !
2007-02-09 01:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by onehotgeorge 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try Paprika
2007-02-09 01:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Harpo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try role play, toys, games
2007-02-09 01:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋