husband working?

Question

ok i need some help right now we are living at my mom's long story but anyway my husband has a chance to go and be a truck driver and he asked me if i think he should be a truck driver or stay home and find a job around here. he has to live in the being of march to go and take a class for 3 weeks and then go on the road. what should i do? in a way i want him here cause we have a 2yr old and plus i will be stuck here alone for 3 weeks. any kind of help would be really nice. P.S BE NICE

Answer 1

I was in this same situation! It's hard being alone but your husband can make this opportunity count. Truck drivers make good money. I am pretty sure that in a year or so you could save enough money to buy a house so you would not be at your mom's. And with a year of experience he could probably get a local job where he is home everynight or close to it. Really take the time to think about this opportunity. Your husband could make a good living being a truck driver. Good luck!

Answer 2

This is a tough question. You obviously need for him to work so he can support you and your child, yet being gone for weeks at a time can be hard on both of you. I think the smart thing to do is to look at the salary being offered as a truck driver and then consider the time he will be away. From that decide if it's worth doing for the money it would bring in. He should also be trying to find a job there in the meantime. Maybe he could get a driving job that would be only day trips or even around town deliveries. You 2 really need to talk this out and come to a decision that you both can be comfortable with. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

So, you would prefer your husband stay at home rather than being financially responsible for his family? You say you are "stuck" there, well how long do you think it will take him to find a job where you are now? It's not going to happen in a day and you might be "stuck" there much longer than you had anticipated. I feel that one should seek a career path that they enjoy, because they will more than likely be doing it for a very long time and if they don't enjoy the job there is a much higher risk of job burn out and wanting to take more and more time off until one gets fired. If trucking is what he wants I say he should go for it. Besides the world doesn't revolve around you...HE has to do what is best for the FAMILY and being financially stable is a MUST for any family.

Answer 4

Well, I think that it is nice that your husband is working to provide for you and your child. Distance can be very tough and understandable for what you are wanting. But with a child you need to provide some type of stability being on the road will confuse plus there are no play grounds in the cab. I think that once he becomes a truck driver he will be able to change companies or ask of a more "local" route which will enable him to be home more.

Answer 5

If that is the only way that he can work, give your blessing to let him go on the road. Once he gains experience driving truck, maybe he can get a driving job that allows him to be at home every night.
Since you are living at your mom's, you will have her company and support. I am sure that you are paying no or little for rent. Save 1/2 of the income and use it for the purchase of your own house. Help him job hunt so he can go to interviews on his break from driving.

Answer 6

From your explanation it seems your husband does not have a job right now so I would say encourage him to seize the opportunity and give him all your support. It will be a valuable new skill for him.
Don't worry about the three weeks; it will go by so quickly.
You are strong; you can do this. You won't be alone as you will have your Mom. Look to the future. Good luck to both of you and I hope it all works out ok.

Answer 7

Let him go work for a while and earn some money. Then you can move to your own place and he can find a job locally. Most important thing is getting out on your own. This will give you two a lot of confidence. Make sure when daddy's gone you keep having conversations about him with the child, so the child will know that daddy is just out working but will be back.

Answer 8

I understand your dilemma, on one hand you want him to have a job, but at the same time you don't want to have him on the road all the time.

In my opinion it would be best for your husband to try to find a job that wouldn't keep him away from the family so much.

If he goes on to become a truck driver eventually he will be spending more and more time on the road, and then once the money starts rolling in, the thought of leaving to find a job closer to home, will be out of reach.

So, really think about it now. Before he takes the job.

Answer 9

as yourself, Will this help your family?

If getting by for 3 weeks alone will help your husband get a GOOD job to support his family, then it's for the best.

you need to get through these few weeks knowing that your future will be better and brighter because your husband will earn a decent living doing something that he enjoys.

It will all work out for the best. Plus, abscence makes the heart grow fonder. The next time you see him after those weeks alone.. you guys will be so in love and wont be able to keep your hands off of eachother.

Answer 10

Let him go get the training. Truck drivers earn good money, and you'd be able to move out of your mother's house; that's always better for a marriage, to have your own space. He may be gone for extended periods of time, but then he'll get down time, and be able to spend time with you and your child. Let him give it a try, he does need to do something that he'll enjoy, and stick with. Good luck to both of you!