I just can't get pregnant!!?

Question

My husband and i have been trying to concieve for over a year now and i just can't get pregnant!! I've done laproscopy~everything checked out normal there. . .I'm very irregular so i'm haveing alot of trouble tracking my ovulation dates. I can't really afford any assistance... does anyone know what i can do! What is the next step???

On another note: i just took yet another pregnancy test this morning... the sad and lonely one line appeared NEGATIVE yet again... i'm so tierd of crying...please help.

I appreciate all the answers-

As far as not being able to afford the assistance ... we are average - we can afford to take vacations and pay are bills but are nest egg is not large enough to pay 10grand for ivf with no guarantees- this is are 1st year of marriage. we are bright enough not to try to have a child that we could not afford.

on another not my husband does have a child from a previous relationship so i'm assuming he's still fertile. i don't know if it decreases with time or what..

Answer 1

u knw wat everybody is going to tell:: "DON STRESS"
The first thing u have to come over is stress, stop thinkin abt getting pregnant..infact tht even can affect the chances.
secondly as u r trying for a year, i wud suggest u to go to a doc n have a check up.
don worry..u will soon have ur baby
gud luk

Answer 2

You do not have to do IVF first, there are plenty of options to start with. I was diagnosed with not ovulating, but I have had regular periods all my life. I have been taking fertility drugs for 3 months nowand did ovulate every month and those run about $80.00/month, plus ultrasounds $200. and a blood test $150.00/month. That is the cheapest to start, though prices will vary everywhere. IUI with Clomid or injectables is next, as I have an appointment with the RE at the end of the month. IUI including meds and ultrasounds etc... are about $1000.00/month. I would start taking vitamins with at least 400 mcg of folic acid in them. Stress can affect ovulation, try getting a massage or an acupyuncture session monthy around ovualtion time. If money is a problem you can consult docs who charge on a sliding scale. Some insurances will cover fertility treatments in certain states.

Answer 3

well, if you have irregular periods, the only time you know that you ovulated is when the mucus is when it look likes raw egg white or when you think you are starting to get wet. If that is so, you need to start trying during that time. If your husband don't have an average sperm count daily, then start trying every other day for like a week. After that is done, just wait and see but you have to be very careful not lifting heavy things or overly stretching your body. Hopefully two to three weeks from that week, you can test yourself to see if you're pregnant. May god bless you and keep him in your prayer no matter what. Just have faith and the unbelievable things happens....good luck...and take care

Answer 4

Has the hubby checked out ok too? He could have low sperm count. Tell him to stay out of warm baths and whirlpools - and switch to boxers if he's a briefs guy. The guys need to hang loose and stay cool to produce quality/quantity swimmers. Also - I haven't seen any scientific evidence about this but intuitivley it seems to make sense. A woman gets horny around the time of ovulation. So put away your thermometer and calendar and do the deed when the mood strikes. Also(and this is probably more easily said than done) try not to think of each lovemaking session as an attempt to get pregnant. You and the hubby love each other, right? So approach lovemaking as an opportunity to enjoy each other and express your love. Try some new tricks, role play, anything to distract you from the "will this make a baby" thought. Good luck!

Answer 5

Look up the Billings Ovulation Method. I used it for birth control then I broke all the rules and used it to conceive. It worked great. It worked so well, that on my honor, when I conceived I had the flu and my husband and I had sex one day that month because I felt so cruddy but I had just miscarried and didn't want to wait another month, that was the day that I conceived. It also worked great for a friend who was having the same issues you are. Take heart sweetie. You'll get there.

I've included the link. Start with number 1 and read through to acheiving pregnancy. You have to start at the beginning or you won't know what they are talking about.

Answer 6

Number one if you cant afford assistance then how can u afford to bring a child into the world , not being mean or anything , but thats the truth. You've got to stop wanting it so bad cause that will slow everything down when God is ready for u to be a parent then it will happen jus give it time trust me i am 3 weeks and 5 days and it took me 12 years to get this far , so just be patient it will all work out .

Answer 7

i am with you! my husband and i have been trying for about a year and i am irregular too. it sucks. i hate pregnancy tests, they are so dissapointing. one thing that i got in december that kind of helped at least know about when to try is an ovulation microscope. if you search fertile focus it should come up it is like 25 bucks and free shipping. i just got out of my ovuation cycle and yet another big fat negative test and still no period either. i am have tests done on monday and so is my husband. good luck to you and i both hope this helped. you aren't alone, i know it feels like it. i have 7 friends who are pregnant or just had babies trust me i know it doesn't seem fair it really sucks. but just think how much more you will appreciate your baby because of all of this. i just try to stay positive as impossible as it may seem some days. =) you are in my prayers! you should really check out fertile focus it is easy and kind of cool!

Answer 8

Have you had your husband checked?

Other than that have sex every other day at different times of day Just enjoy the process and relax.

My husband and I tried for 2 years and finally gave up, but we still practiced, and lo and behold we found out we were pregnant 2 months later.

Sometimes you just get pregnant when you body is ready.

Also if you are over weight try exercising more and change your eating habits, if you smoke or he does try to quit and if he drinks or you drink quit or cut back these things all effect your chances of getting pregnant.


Good luck!

Answer 9

Gosh I know that feeling all to well. It took me 6 yrs to have a successful pregnancy. I tracked my basal body temperature and also got the clearblue fertility monitor. I know this is expensive, but in the long run it is well worth it. I found out I was ovulating later in my cycle than I thought. I got it in December and found I was pregnant in February. Have you had your husband's sperm count tested? My husband's was low and I started him on a zinc supplement, it helped. I wish you all the luck and do not give up.

Answer 10

I took my preg. test this morning also and a big fat neg.appeared. then i put myself through the stress of crying.I know how you feel. everyone says not to stress,but it is so hard not to. It took us over a year for my first baby and now we are ttc baby #2 and once again we are well over a year. I do have endo,and not quit sure if thats the reason,like you i had tests done a and they so far came out fine. my doc. put me on clomid to help me ovulate. i see you have irreg. cy. have you asked about it.I cant say much about it bc this is my first cycle but I hear it helps with helping to regulate and ovulate. but still every mo.I know when its time it will happen.So have hope.

Answer 11

I know what you mean. I have been with my husband for nine years, and have had problems getting pregnant....in the nine years we have been together, ive gotten pregnant once, and that ended in misscarriage in august... I too have had all the tests done, and im fine, and I too have very irregular periods.... This is going to sound strange but check out Dr.Richard Schulze's website. he has a product called ''female formula''.....I swear by this!!!!! It is absolutly great!!!! it has regulated my periods, and it also increases fertility... its an herbal product....Good luck.