She's on a diet trying to lose a bit of weight but I didn't know she wasn't allowed any treats at all and it seemed rude not to ask her when I was offering everyone else in the office where we both work. There are others in the office who are dieting they just said no thanks. She can be lovely but often snaps and strops but this was the last straw and I am not prepared to allow her to get away with being such a madam any more. How can I best let her know? Thanks!!
2007-02-09 00:35:26 · 23 answers · asked by MI5 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hmm..sounds like shes a bit obsessed about this diet thing
dieting is hard tho, but a tiny little bit of chocolate will not hurt her! wont make her put the 1lbs back on!
a little bit of what you fancy, never hurt anybody!
she needs to lighten up a bit!
2007-02-09 07:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be really having a bad time with this diet. Don't offer her any more food. Keep your distance a bit you don't deserve to be stropped at. Let her know by asking her if she feels a bit stressed lately as you've noticed she doesn't seem to happy and go from there. Enjoy your choccy.
2007-02-09 08:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by treacle0511 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Subtly ask her if it is her time of the month and if she says no then tell her that you just wondered as she has been a bit snappy lately. If it is her time of the month and she asks why you asked, just say the same. If nothing else it will let her know that you have picked up on her strops and dont really appreciate it.
2007-02-09 08:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of food makes a person irritated easily - she s probably trying really hard & finding it v difficult to diet that she just snapped at you for nothing.
She needs to know what she is doing wrong - maybe she didnt realise she snapped at you. when you re alone, tell her how you felt, that its not nice to snap at people but tell her this in a nice way (not by fighting). Im sure she ll understand!
2007-02-09 08:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by chasey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how she feels. Whenever I decided to diet, my ex would bring home a box of chocolates at about the third day...just when I was getting into the groove of it. I also felt I was being sabotaged... it was the ONLY time he ever brought me chocolates. She's struggling. Next time bring in a bag of baby carrots for her. She will appreciate that kind of thoughtfulness.
Okay...so you didn't know. Now you do. Here's your chance to help her reach her goal. She'll think a lot more of you.
2007-02-09 08:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really blame her for snapping because dieting can be hard. But, sit her down and try to talk to her about how you feel explain that you do love her but you're getting sick of her mood swings. Make sure she knows that you are not saying it to be nasty you just think that you needed to let her know.
2007-02-09 09:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by unique-diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she does it, say "I was just trying to be polite! You don't have to bite my head of about it!" and walk away. Maybe she will realize the pain of her actions. On the other hand, she might be having a hard time sticking to her diet and her snapping wasn't really meant for you, but for the voice in her head saying "EAT IT NOW!!"
2007-02-09 08:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and talk to her. Her reaction may have just been a misunderstanding; perhaps she felt you were undermining her efforts to loose weight. As a friend, you might try to be more understanding of what she's going through too. Yes, she did over-react, and you're right to talk to her about it, but also look at yourself and consider what you could have done differently. Good luck, and do save your friendship; true friends are to be valued!
2007-02-09 08:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sympathetically and empathetically cos she might be a chocaholic where the others aren't, and overall she needs more encouragement, I guess. Try drawing her attention to the better response of the others - but not by doing the choccie routine again lol...
2007-02-09 08:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by steveb9458 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was having a hard time sticking to the diet that day. Are you naturally slim? Maybe she felt that it was unfair a skinny minnie like you can eat chocolate and she can't!
Give her a chance.
2007-02-09 08:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by jupiter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋