ok..i got two friends that us 3 are everywhere together. we are best friends...ok but one of them crystal changes the way she is when the other is around. she just makes fun of me and makes me feel like she dont want me to be there with them ..and when we are alone she is nice and well i dont know what to do. why is she acting like that when ashley is around?/?
2007-02-09 00:31:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think Crystal has a major crush on your other friend Ashley, and sees you as a competitor when you're all together. It is also possible that Crystal has some emotional/psychological problems and feels an inferiority complex and tries to make herself feel better by putting you down, making fun of you etc. You should let her read my answer - sometimes it's all it takes.
If you are not interested in your third friend (Ashley) romantically, and just value Ashley as a friend, then maybe you should make it clear to Crystal so that she can stop competing with you for Ashley's attention. Sometimes lots of misunderstandings happen, which are not based on real facts, but simply on someone's feelings. Very often people get it completely wrong if they let their feelings rule their head/behaviour. Good luck!
2007-02-09 00:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by bohemicus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth there is only one way of finding out why she is acting like this and that is to sit down and ask her.
If you find that to hard to do, then try writing her a letter explaining how your feeling and how the way she is acting is effecting you.
The one thing I can say is that no matter what anyone else says or does we are self ultimately choose the way we are going to react to it. Weather we are going to let it effect us or not.
I know that is easier said than done but it does work when you look at it that way.
As I said before it could be a number of reasons that she is acting like this and you will never know until you talk to her about it.
If she is as good of a friend as you say she is, then be open with her.
Good luck!!!
2007-02-09 08:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she cares more about what Ashley thinks or she is intimidated by her or you are the nicer friend. She will risk upsetting you to impress Ashley as she knows you are understanding whereas it would not work the other way round.
2007-02-09 08:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by jupiter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe someone said she liked u and it was Ashley and crystal wants to make Ashley think she doesn't like u.
2007-02-09 08:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by chickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is jealous of your friendship with Ashley. She feels like she has to act like that, for what reason I don't know.
2007-02-09 08:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Tami H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is jelous of ashleys friendship to you.So when Ashley is around ask her why she behaves in that manner.Hear Ashleys view as well.
2007-02-09 08:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it seems your friend is only a circumstantial friend. She wants to be friends with you, but at the same time doesn't want to sacrifice her other friendships with people who might not like you. I am sorry your friend is acting this way.
2007-02-09 08:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For whatever reason, she wants the other friend to see that she's treating you poorly. Why that is I don't know. Maybe ask the other friend if she noticed the other ones behavior. How old is your group of friends?
2007-02-09 08:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because crystal doesn't know who she is or who she wants to be yet! but beware someone like that will stab you in the back too,,,she is prabably very two faced and that is not a good quality in a friend!
2007-02-09 08:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by pippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be seem cool to everyone. Maybe the other friend intimidates her a bit
2007-02-09 08:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋