why am i disturbed and unerved so much by outside noises and noises coming from next door flats?

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whether its shouting outside on the mini estate i live on. or the man in the flat above me, shutting doors loudly, walking loudly on his floor..thud! thud! bang!, im full of anxiety and nerves anyway and have socially withdrawn into my small flat. but i cant seem to tolerate any noises, everytime i hear stuff my heart races, and i get butterflies in my stomach, and its like im preparing for a ho down..im waiting a second opinion for other symptoms i have. moods constantly low and bleak all the time. there are alot of youths that live around me and they shout, with corse voices, and ride high pitched reving motorbikes everyday. i get so filled with rage, hate and anger, i feel like storming out on my balcony and shouting at them, i feel like i wanna go beserk at them with a machine gun..when they shout and are making activity outside, they sound like a bunch of liam or noel gallagers from oasis..im a nervous wreck and wish i could escape from here. i so wanna achieve emmegration to

to canada or the us, i dream about my ambitions and wondering how i can achieve them..seems like an impossable mountain to climb. the security of my own home, with a nice girlfriend, living somewhere nice, holding down good employment...i detest the pathetic vermin who i have to live around when i long to be living in a different scenario, with somebody nice in a peacefull environment...but im along way off that, living on benifits, claiming the sick, battling through illnesses that have yet to be diagnosed...the man upstairs this afternoon keeps shutting doors loudly, treding on his floor heavily and i can hear everything...arrrgh! i feel like im going to completly flip and lose control thats what im scared of..does anyone else ever deal with anything like this? this is what i feel im trapped around:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FaJGy2rsKWo

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GEfY68ZDAZE

seriously u gotta watch this, this is like where i live please watch

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2KA9oakKDoA
unbelievable

Answer 1

tricky one that....try ear muffs

Answer 2

You need to chill first! Sounds like you have bad anxiety and need to see someone about it. Take yourself out somewhere peaceful like a park, away from shouting planks. If there is any way you could move somewhere quieter, it'd help. But you need to address this problem first as wherever you are it'll be there at some point, even without loud neighbours. Go and see a doctor; if they are listening to you then they won't just shove you a load of anti depressants and tell you to go away. They should offer other things; maybe like cognitive behaviour therapy or some kind of constructive help. Keep a diary as an outlet of how you feel; that way you don't end up losing it and hurting other people, as annoying as they are. Get out there and face the world; by staying in you're just magnifying the problem; it's scary at first but bloody empowering when you've done it. Go for it and keep positive..

Answer 3

I sympathise, my friend, I've been there. All the advice didn't help, I just ended up accepting myself and edging toward a situation where the environment and external stimulations were manageable. I finally achieved it, stable family, very quiet reflective existence, and it's much easier to stay calm when the outside world impinges - it always does to some extent. I can now look back and know that maybe things were relatively normal back there, but, to be honest, getting out was the only way for me and my personality.

Hope you manage to migrate out of 'your' nightmare environement. Good luck.

Answer 4

Look what good people answering you want to say. We, the Yahoo People hear you. Don't give up, get to a park or river and just sit down and Breath. You are not alone. Keep asking questions on this site. Maybe some about interests you have. Answer some of the questions, we need your input, too.
Derek, don't give up, don't give in, EXHALE.

Answer 5

You may be particularly sensitized. Maybe try some meditation or yoga. Alternatively get out into the countryside and go for a walk or some other outdoors activity.

Answer 6

You may be a highly sensitive person (HSP). Read the book by Elaine Aron, or check her website (http://www.hsperson.com/), she can explain things much better than I can. Basically, about 20% of humans are highly sensitive, which means that smells, noises, and many other things bother us quicker than other people. On the positive side, we are also more intuitive and can generally enjoy things like arts and good food a lot better.

Answer 7

Life is noisy, chaotic, messy.

If you cannot handle this, get some medical attention, or psycho help.

Or the easy way: Bose noise reducing head phones if you can afford them, or ear plugs.