I mean my life has been rough since day 1 I mean I was raised in a abusive home and try to get away but I am still having bad luck.No matter how I try to be a better person something wrong is always happening.
2007-02-09 00:05:49 · 19 answers · asked by Lexy320 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Heavy question, deserves a real response.
First of all, in varying degrees, we all have life hard. Even the wealthy. Just life. And a matter of perspective.
But there might be something you can do about it while you wait for god. In this very moment you can effect change in your life. The reins are right there in your hands. You have a lot more power over your life than you might think. An alcoholic is an alcoholic not because daddy didn't love him, but because he chooses to drink. Don't want to be an alcoholic? Stop drinking.(not that i'm saying this is your issue, just a metaphor)
Don't want to be a victim? Stop being a victim. Take responsibility for your life.The past is past and cannot be changed, the future never comes; but right now you can act. What are you gonna do? If you're in a bad, destructive relationship, will you get out? Or stay and endure another night of abuse? Sorry, I didn't say these were easy.
If you want to be a better person accept the person you are first, for all your flaws and good things.. Gotta start somewhere. Then take steps to be better. good luck
2007-02-09 00:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by guy o 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is so easy to blame God, but it has nothing to do with him. Would a God really let those kind of things happen? That's my question. You really have to have faith. You have to learn from past mistakes and trials. I know that ain't easy. I am right there with you. I have had a tough life also. Things just seem to never get better. But I am a survivor and I am not a quitter. I keep chugging along. I ask God for strength to get through everyday. One day at a time. One thing that I have learned is that life is not fair. Like you said some people just have it good while others have to work damn hard for what they get. Not fair at all. Be positive and stay strong. Hold your head high no matter what the circumstances. You are a human being worthy of a good life. Make that happen. Be a good person. Be compassionate, be thoughtful. Just hang in there. It's all we can do. Never give up hope.
2007-02-09 00:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not that god makes it hard for some and not for others. Its that some of us must travel a bumpy road to get to the end of the rainbow. You should evaluate what choices you are making in life and change a few. If there is something that you usually do when you are looking for friends or a mate then you should change up your criteria. Being raises in a abusive hand is not your fault or gods- I am sure he was not instructing someone to be abusive because God is loving...not evil... Things will get better for you! You have to say positive and keep your head up and things will turn around. But negativity brings more negativity so you should try to aviod it at all cost. What you are going through in life has nothing to do with you being a good or bad person. The situations are just trials and you will overcome you just have to believe that they are temperoray and better things are to come. Set goals and reach them.... then set more. If you have family that thinks you are what you are and you will never be more. PROVE THEM WRONG!!! Work hard to reach success and what you want out of life and you WILL see a difference. Oh... and treat people like you want to be treated because what goes around comes right back around. Take Care- better things are to come for you.
2007-02-09 00:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other people may make your life harder for not believing what they do but this is a distinction from not believing itself making your life harder. For some people not believing in a deity is harder, for others it is the truth and living in reality is a much clearer and psychologically comfortable place. I fall into the latter myself. Not believing hasn't made life harder for me. I agree that I think I am more self reliant and a realistic because of it. I do also have a great system of friends and family that help when I need support or to solve problems. I also have other rituals and interests that I turn to when I need to peace out or destress. Some of my family are believers who wish I would believe as they do but have come to see I am the same person and love me anyway. Hopefully, your mom will accept as well. You may have to agree to not bring up the topic of religious beliefs or lack of them with each other all the time. The only time I can see atheism being a problem is if it is just a way to avoid responsibilty. Some people use disbelief as an excuse to make horrible life choices with drugs or irresponsible relationships. There are consequences for everyone and living life with these in mind makes sense whether you do so because you think God made the rules or because of natural consequences and results it has in your life. Best wishes to you!
2016-05-24 00:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by Rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont blame God he isn't in control of everything. And it does get better .. u always think that life sucks and u want it to end, but you're wrong .. it's hard to see the positive when you're depressed. Bad things just happen in life, for no reason. Unfortunately u just ended up getting a lot. I know from experience i witnessed years of domestic violence in my home and was physical abused myself, bullied at school, tormented at home, ive had bad luck in my love life, have had trouble with friends and money. well that was a few years ago, even though sometimes bad things come back. It never ends because that's just life.. but once you accept that things aren't always in your control, u can move on and believe me, life gets better. You just need patience
2007-02-09 00:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by rainbowstylin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety it is not just god. I used to ask my self the same question and what I have learned is that god gave us will and our own decision making abilitys. Sometimes we may think that we are making the right decisions, and then find out down the road that it was the wrong decision. I also think that god throws us obstacles to make us stronger and it is our courage and determination that gives us our strength. Just keep your head up and try to keep trudging through the thickness that surrounds you. If need be see a counselor. There is no shame in talking to someone, and talking to someone who is not partial can be very beneficial. I wish you all the best and I know, as long as you keep trying, your life will improve and you will find that special place you have been longing for. Don't give up.
May God Bless You, Ali Rae
2007-02-09 00:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
r u under the age of 18?if not u don't have to live like that. but sometimes u learn from what uve been through and get through it and have a better life. dont try to be something move to a nother state and dont talk to the people that abused u dont let people run u get to know ur self u dont have to live the same way that u gwew up in. just do ur best. talk to god tell him that u want a happy, sterdy,healthy life u realy want change. u want some one to pertect u. he will answer ur prayers it wont happen over night but pray every night and day but u have to belive also u have to make it happen also.
2007-02-09 00:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some circumstances are chosen for you, many you chose for yourself. "Hard" is in your perception and in how you decide to deal with all that you need to accomplish.
Don't worry so much about being a better person but look outward. Don't make it about you. Make it about those around you. What can you give to the person next to you? How can you affect a sad situation? How can you change something?
Stop thinking, start doing and certainly quit blaming God. He is not sitting around making things hard for people. That is not His nature at all and if you believe that then you have not learned enough about Him. Devote yourself to Him if you have that kind of courage and He will reveal His nature.
There is a purity here that you are missing. A clarity that you lack. Look for something positive in your existence and start there - move outward and not inward.
2007-02-09 00:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God isn't making your life rough - you are.
It's a matter of decisions you make. Many children who grow up in abusive homes never learn what it is to be truly happy inside. Even when good things happen they wait for the world to come crashing down on them and it ruins any happiness they might find. They set themselves up for failure.
You have to decide to be happy and you have to learn to love yourself. Then find someone who is good to love you. Don't fall into the same kind of people your folks were. Find someone who wants to build a happy life with no abuse and ugliness.
The first thing you have to do is get out of the rut. Get an education and then get out and get a good job. Know in your heart you deserve to be happy even if those around you are not. Don't let your family drag you down.
2007-02-09 00:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by Collette L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
U have to keep on trying. The picture of the life u once lived should be driving force behind ur desire for a better deal. God will sure see u through. He has not forgotten u. Just wait and see.
2007-02-09 01:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by genie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋