I split up with my boyfriend last night, it turns out he has been cheating on me. Myself and everyone else are so shocked as we were so in love and i really thought i could trust him. I'm not sure I can ever trust again.
2007-02-09 00:03:07 · 36 answers · asked by soph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, most guys can be faithful, we're not all like that.
2007-02-09 00:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by JesusFreak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are good men out there. Some men don't cheat! Sometimes, a man doesn't realize what he has until it's gone. Another thing is that some men are afraid of commitments and don't know how to deal with their feelings. If you don't have trust, you don't have anything. Look at it as his lost. You'll have a good man coming to knock your door down in no time. Just be sure not to make him pay for the last man's mistakes.
2007-02-09 05:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by angellove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course some men can be faithfuly but unfortunatley in this day and age i dont think many of them are, i am the only female in an all male job and i hear and see everything out of the 10 that work here id say 8 of them have been unfaithful at least once through their relationships / marraige. however trust is the main key to a relationship and you kinda need to have that trust so dont let this bloke make you tar every man with the same brush.
2007-02-09 00:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that you have been hurt.
Do not blame all men though. Some of us can be faithful (Remember, too, that some women cheat as well)
I have been married almost 38 years and would happily start all over again.
Sadly, there is no way that you can know in advance.
BUT, to mistrust everyone will do more damage to you than any hurt that you Can encounter, even though it does not feel like that at the time.
2007-02-09 03:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by alan h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're going through, and I've been as bitter and disheartened about men as you seem to be right now. When you put your faith and trust into someone and they crush it, it can really make you lose faith in all men. I'll tell you what I'm trying to tell myself...just because one man did something to us, that doesn't mean that all men will. Of course, that doesn't mean to go giving your heart to just anyone. You still need to be cautious and careful...just don't make all men pay for the mistake that one man made. Remember....trust is earned. And there are many men out there who are capable and willing to earn it. Good luck to you and don't give this guy the satisfaction of knowing that he hurt you. Hold your head up high and move on.
2007-02-09 00:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, but hang in there. There are still some good men out there who can be trusted. I finally found someone I trust completely and I would never cheat. If I wanted to still see other people I wouldn't have gotten married. You can learn to trust again, but it will take time. Good luck to you.
2007-02-09 01:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Men can be faithful. You were obviously with a cheating idiot. It'll probably take you some time to get over the evil swine and maybe a bit longer to trust another man. But hey, we are not all cheats! Promise.
2007-02-09 01:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by electric/discotequer/robot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that must hurt tons. There are few things more painful than to have someone you've trusted with your heart hurting you like that. Good riddance to bad rubbish I say!
But don't make a second mistake, you know, by deciding never to give anyone a chance ever again. It'll take time to heal, and no one can rush you. But trust me there are men out there who are principled, who'd treat their women with dignity and respect.
My tip for you would be to get a man who is God-fearing, who really believes that his every action has a bearing on his personal relationship with God. That way, he has greater motivation (that is, besides his love and respect for you) to be faithful to you.
Now for this thing to work, you have to be God-fearing yourself, or else what would a truly God-fearing man be doing with a woman who is not? All the best dear!
2007-02-09 00:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men have the habit of f***ing good things up.Sometimes they cant appreciate a good woman and they are so sad of commitment.I still have a hard time trusting men and I am married,you got to hope for the best with men and just put all of you into a relationship and hope he will do the same.So dont worry girl there are other guys in the world and listen to srtong woman songs like Beyonce "to the left"song.
2007-02-09 00:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lexy320 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can. I know quite a few faithful men. It was unfortunate that this happened to you but you will find someone that you can trust in time. The same thing happened to my daughter and she got married to a really nice guy just recently. It took her a long time to get over the first guy and this one is a million times better so cheer up.
2007-02-09 00:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, However it took me awhile to find a man to trust, Im in my 2nd marriage
my 1st marriage wow, I did trust at begining then became down hill and lots of things i didnt think would happen, such as him cheating and him showing his anger jealous side of him,
my ex boyfreind, my daughters father, cheated on me while i was pregnant . & denied it and i was living at his parents at the time, crazy me, anyhow we broke up and i didnt think i would find another trustworthy man, I will honestly say I dont trust my husband as much as I should but I trust enough that I know he wont cheat on me, So far that is, we have been married now 8 yrs, and he has taken my children like his own and loves them just as his own as well,
i have two children that are not his, and he just is estatic of them sorry if spelling is off,
anyways, He is home everynight and all weekends too,
He calls me when ever he is away. if he has a drink he would rather come home and have a drink with me, which is sweet. then go to the bar of people he dont know ect,
once in awhile we go to the bar to go dancing and have a drink together of course, and we like to play pool,
he trusts me too, I have never cheated I couldnt because I need to be true to my heart, and if not i wouldnt feel very well.
im sorry things not going well and that he cheated on you, i know its hurtful , been there,
for me I wasnt looking for another man to trust or love me, he found me
oh and to let you know this is bizzar but the man I am married to now, was my high school sweet heart in school many yrs before,
2007-02-09 00:13:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋