my girlfriend is going on 18 she wants us to move in together were going out a year now she asked me when we move in together can we have a baby i dont no wat to say to her
2007-02-09 00:03:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
if you feel like you arnt ready then just tell her " maybe someday but right now im just not ready"
if you are going to try for a baby i suggest you have a few thousand dollars saved up (really im serious)
you need a crib, changing table, bassonet, car seat, TONS of clothes (you will spend so much on clothes the grow pretty fast) blankets formula, all the other needs of a baby. It wont be very easy so make sure you plan ahead and have everything ready in advance.
2007-02-09 00:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Are you ready to move in with her? To pay rent, electricity, gas, water, council tax, phone bills and food shopping? Are you ready to give up nights out with the lads while you sort your finances out? Are you ready to be with your girlfriend all the time except when you're at work? I only ask as I moved in with my boyfriend at 17, and within 12 months I was back home with my parents. When you move in with someone you find out a lot more about them than just seeing each other a couple of nights a week, add to this the strains of bills and stuff, and you might realise your not meant for each other. If you feel ready to live with her, then I would advice you to get somewhere on a short term lease and see how you get on, I'd put the idea of a baby on the back burner until you both know your going to be happy living together. The fact you're asking for advice on here shows you've got doubts, the best thing you can say to your girlfriend is something along the lines of, 'we've got the rest of our lives together so whats the rush?'
2007-02-09 00:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by fluffynickers 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't say how old you are,but, 18 seem v young to be starting a family. If you love her then move in with her but put the family thing on hold until you see how your relationship develops. If you have aims in life that differ from hers then you should seriously consider whether you want to make this sort of commitment and if not then I think you know what you need to do.
2007-02-09 00:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by madness 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to do what you feel is right for you. Do you want to move in together??? Have a baby together??? Think about these things before you do them!!!
2007-02-09 00:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be honest with her, if you dont want to do any of they things then just tell her! if she cares for you and respects you then she will understand. If she gets angry or resentful towards you then she isnt the right partner for you. Kids are great but unless you can afford them and have a proper house and 100% love and time to give them then dont even think about it, a child is for life. good luck
2007-02-11 08:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you two are too young to have a baby and that is not the reason you two are moving in together. If she still insists tell her no to the move in unless she gives up the baby idea until you are older and more established.
2007-02-09 00:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't rush things... take your time. Move in first, you will know whther you want to be with someone once you know their daily habits. Ask her about what she thinks about having a baby. And plan out everything as far as money and who going to take care of the baby etc. So that everything will go smoothly
2007-02-09 03:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by JessiKa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like the girl is looking for love in all the wrong places. She is too young to settle down with children and so are you, so just explain to her that this is too hasty for you, and that she needs to slow down. Tell her that you plan on seeing the world and doing something with your life, so that when you DO have a baby you can offer it anything and everything it needs.
Dont be pressurised into this.
2007-02-09 00:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by carrienicholson23 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
say you'd love to in a good few years time, when you both have good jobs and are more in a position to give each other and a baby the love and support to be a really strong family. tell her that it doesn't mean you don't love her if anything it's your way of showimg her you love and respect her and you truely believe you will be together in a few years to get married and have the family.
2007-02-10 05:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by katrina c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well what do you want?
figure that out first!
if you dont want to have a baby, be honest with her, there is nothing more us girls hate than our blokes lying to us about their feelings on things!
you gotta be 100% sure before having a baby though, the dream of it may seem perfect, and you will be the perfect family and everything, but the reality is different!
2007-02-09 04:39:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋