i have been living through hell knowing he is cheating on me - am i crazy to be still with him - i feel i will mess up my daughters life if we seperate... indian culture...i
2007-02-08 23:37:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't deserve to be with a man that isn't faithful to you...you are teaching your daughters that it is okay to accept a husband that doesn't love you whole heartedly... Your daughters will be happier for separation and hey, let's face it..you're a woman, you can make it through anything!! It will be okay...I've done it before...very hard at first, but you will feel so much better... good luck to you and your family...
2007-02-08 23:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know you are doing this for the sake of your daughter but come on now (Indian culture doesn't mean you have to endure a man who doesn't respect you or does it?). I want you to sort this out; You said you know that he has been cheating (that in itself should tell you to either leave him or pack his stuff and tell him to leave!), you've been with him fourteen years and it doesn't sound as though he has made you very happy? At this point it doesn't matter what you do, either your daughter is going to live with you and be fine or you will live in hell for the next few years. I think I'd take my chances without him than to live in hell. I hope you don't want her to think this kind of behavior on your husbands part is OK? I wish you the best of luck and I know it's hard when you love someone. Do not stay with someone because of your culture, you need to be strong and rise to the occasion for your daughters sake.
2007-02-09 00:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point your culture shouldn't matter! Your daughters life will end up being worse if you stay. My advice....Do as he asks, leave. If you don't, you will be miserable for the rest of your life. Everyone deserves to be happy and your not. He is a cheater and will probably never change. Do whats right for you and your daughter will only benefit from it. Good luck!
2007-02-08 23:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Tami H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then let him go! your daughters' life would be alot messier if you still live with each other and seeing both of you like that!
i dont know whats indian culture but i think when in comes to love, marriage or relationships its all the same whatever nationality you'd be. dont be a martyr girl. after all its not just for your sake but for your daughters sake and their personality to be built!
2007-02-08 23:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by m0cca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats best for your girls is whats best for you.....if you use them as an excuse not to take care of yourself or deal with your life, they will eventually resent you....
I dont know if you should leave him.....but get some information. Start with little steps to take care of yourself.....get a plan for leaving him, find out how much it will cost, start an account for yourself...make an informed decision....and start living in the reality of your situation.... the pretending will make your girls nuts....its the stuff that causes years of therapy.....your girls already know something is wrong.... they can't possibly understand because you are both their parents.... they will be loved as much no matter what happens.... God bless
2007-02-09 00:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon it is so painful for a woman to have to endure her husbands rejection.. by him pushing you away and then cheating he diminished your character and your woman pride.. at the end your just going to have to think this trough as an individual and sure you worry about your girls, but soon your kids would have lives on their own and staying and be humiliated for life by your husbands attitude is a a high price to pay just for the sake of the well being of your daughthers, think of it this way, as a mother you must past down a legacy to your kids, and by staying with this man what would that legacy be? that is ok to endure pain and humiliation and take crab just for the sake of marriage? that is good for a woman to be a welcome mat for the men they will married.. wont you rather past down the legacy to them that we women are strong and that we have what it take to survive with men or with out them, teach them to fight for their rights and to be leaders for other women.. not to crumble in a corner and be kicked around.. your kids some day will understand this and they will love you and be proud of you because their mom is a warrior an untamed soul and knows what she wants... bottom line kick your husband to the curve and claim your pride and life.. for life is just one and you deserve to be happy, and you will be if you give your self a chance.. good luck.
2007-02-08 23:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to treat a case of cheating in men is not by being a nagging wife. yes he is cheating and it's in his nature to do so.
but if u re his perfect mate then u will do sth to save ur marriage.
seal up ur tongue and get on ur kneel.
wake him up very early in the morning and tell him some sweet things then, ask him wht u will do to make his happiness complete at least for ur daughters' sake.
its for better for worse.
Do not let him go, make it work again
2007-02-08 23:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i am sure it will mess her up even more if your husband is unhappy and involving other women..
she'll might think its normal for a husband to act that way.. and that its okay for a man to cheat on you..
show her that your a strong woman and that women don't deserve to have thier husbands treat them that way.. show her she deserves a decent man.. that will love her and treat her right..
she learns threw you.. and if you live with a man like that chances are she'll do the same thing
2007-02-08 23:43:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
dam let him go and move on if you stay you will mess up your daughters life going through hell.
2007-02-09 00:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by bette69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
throw his **** out
you dont have to go anywhere
your kids know there is trouble and knows something is going on
be the better parent and get him out of there
as parents we are spose to bring our kids up in a healthy life and you being sad and troubled is not healthy
2007-02-08 23:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋