Years ago, open mariages were in vogue. You could be married and still be with others. Has this worked for?

Question

anyone? Always seemed like a bizarre concept; sharing your partner with someone else and not being jealous or hurt. A little bit like the concept of open classrooms. Classrooms without walls. It sounded good, but it produced chaos.

Answer 1

I was part of a marriage that was open

or so it was thought, I may have misspoken

when it came time to share with others

had me one picked out, if I had my druthers

my mate had other plans I would learn

there would be no taking that exciting turn

with stomping of foot and folding of arms

she made it quite clear, no using my charms


Talk is cheap and vogue it may be

but open marriage will not be for me



p.s. It wasn't bratwurst but a Philly Cheese steak sandwich.

Answer 2

I think it was an interesting concept. Was I think is the key word. I remember well those days. However, the concept was doomed from the beginning. Primarily because it was promoted and encouraged by men. For obvious reasons. Women went along with the concept, or at least gave lip service to it, because they envisioned themselves as free of the traditional role of subservient wife and mother.

But then basic reality hit. Man and women have a core need to share and be able to have a solid support system. This can only happen with a commitment between people. A commitment that can weather the ups, downs, and disappointments that life brings. That requires a unit that is within itself. A couple.

Now that includes gays too. It's all about commitment. Open marriage obviates that to a large degree.

The interesting thing is that we continually try to tinker with social and personal options. When in the end we simply revert back to the social structure that was been around for centuries.

Humans and human interaction has never really changed. Wants and needs have never changed.

I submit that they never will.

We is what we is.

ps They were in Vogue? Must have missed that issue. Guess i was more interested in Playboy.

Answer 3

I remember when this came into vogue. Interesting concept but no one ever thought of the consequences. It still doesn't work even though some couples claim it is the cat's meow. It still goes on today with couple swapping, group sex, etc.
In this day and age of TSD's why would anyone even considering going that route.

I would never have shared my partner. Period. It shows lack of respect for the other person.

The concept might work better for males. Even though some females say they would be ok with it, the fallout catches up with you.

Now the couples who have children and practice this, are selfish little bastards. Clearer than that I can't be.

Answer 4

OK for me would not work, that is not to say in my younger days in a previous relationshipp (which did last over 10 yrs) we were pretty opened minded and experimental, but our relationshi[ was not open to the extent that either one of us could go out on our own for something different...no uh uh not gonna happen...i know of acquaintances of ours that play with other couples on line with the cams and all...but they also deal with some major issues in there relationship, i know of others who bring several other women n2 their bed, and seem to have a happy relationship, i guess in my youth i was a bit more something else...now i feel like it would take away from the intimacy that we share just us....i don't even think it is an issue of jealous or hurt, to me if i can have another man touch me that way i really don't need to be in the relationship to begin with and same for him if he needs someone else and we cannot communicate our needs and desires to one another...time to go...it ain't me babe...and that really is OK...lets just cut the ties and go find what we need....anyway just my brain thoughts there

Answer 5

Sorry dude, but its not for me, I will always stay and be true with my wife. No sharing.
Not to say I don't approve of it, it may work for others and they enjoy it.

Answer 6

I don't like sharing.