My x husband and i divorced 10 years ago..we have 2 children together, We are both remarried.. he's been married now for 7 years, ive been married for almost 2 .. Through the 10 years he's never paid me a compliment on my looks, or ever implied anything sexual, it was always the normal stuff and about the kids.. The other day he msgs me on msger (not unusual as we've communicated like at many time before but only about the kids) Well this time he complimented me about my looks, which i just took as a simple compliment. Then he started to talk about getting an erection from my pictures etc. And making several other sexual comments. I tried to fluff it off at first, changing the subject ect , but he kept making the inuendos. This is a man that left me for another woman, why after 10 yrs, being remarried , would he out of the blue start talking like this to of all people his x wife of 10 years?? I fluffed it off and made an excuse to get out of the convo. but he did it again the next day.
2007-02-08 23:01:21 · 12 answers · asked by Bre B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and i did tell my husband about it, so its not like im hiding it, im more curious about why he's doing it.. what are his motives???
2007-02-08 23:02:27 · update #1
He's tired of his current sex provider, thus, wants to get laid with you and he thinks you will give him some. I don't think he's interested in anything but satisfying himself in a sexual way. Since you have told your husband, then i'd tell his wife as well, you remember how you felt when you found he was cheating.
2007-02-09 00:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is starting to see what he gave up and is currently missing out on.
Have you changed your looks, or done things differently? Maybe he is feeling interested again.
OR he is just a sleeze bag and a cheater is always a cheater... Tell him to leave you alone and the only reason that he gets to talk to you anymore is because of the kids-tell him not to forget that!
2007-02-08 23:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by sweetybaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being open with your current hubby is the best thing, and the next time your ex mentions something sexual tell him thanks for the compliment but I am not interested, if he still carries on tell him that his wife should be getting these compliments and remind him how he ruined your marriage to each other.
2007-02-08 23:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's either realised what he's lost or maybe he is bored in his current relationship and wants an affair. Either that or he's testing you to see how deep your feelings for him are, and trying to see how far he can go before you say something good back implying that you still like him in that way.
2007-02-08 23:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him and dont let him mess with your mind or you will end up in another divorce again. Its not fair to your new husband. Your ex chose to walk out on you before and hurt you, now he wants to play cat and mouse with you. Dont listen to him or even question him. IGNORE HIM he is a jerk.
2007-02-08 23:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but i think i would remind him that he is married. and ask him possibly if this is what he did while he was married to u as well? that'll prolly put an end to it.
tell him u dont appreciate it and its disrespectful of him because u r married as well.
he shoulda thought about what he had when he was with ya. its not your fault he lost out on a good thing. lol
Good luck to u.
2007-02-08 23:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple.... he now is bored of the present wife and wants a fling! dont fall for it ! and good 4 you to have the open comunication with your husband! thumbs up 4 you! ignore it show no interest! reply with how happy and satiosfied your man has you ! ji ji ji that will make him twich !
2007-02-08 23:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by M-Ram . 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It perhaps indicates that his second marriage has been a failure and he is realising that he was more satisfied with you. But you should not give him lift and treat him like just any other person and avoid talking to him.
2007-02-08 23:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Spider 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He knows you are happy and he probably isn't so maybe he is trying to mess up your happiness. Or maybe trying to get you in bed. No matter his reason it is going to cause you problems, just like it is.
2007-02-08 23:33:33 · answer #9 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the jerk is on the prowl again. If you really want to know, I guess you could ask his wife what's going on with them. OOOOPPSSS....don't reckon he'd like that, would he?
2007-02-09 00:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋