My partner doesn't like making love to me, he said at the beginning that it was because of my strech marks. Lately he said it was not true he was only drunk that time. But still, he doesn't make any attemps to make have sex with me. It was only me who always initiates it, but lately I don't want to do it anymore, I think I'm only wasting my time. Im an attractive woman and there are men who are interested in me, but I love my partner. I'm lonely and I want to do something about it.
Sounds strange but sex for me is a part of a relationship. I know that he masturbates which I found very humiliating, he keeps on telling me that whenever he wants to have sex, I'm not always available, which is not true because we both work at home.
I've talk to him about this lots of time, he only make excuses, telling me he loves me and he loved to have sex with me but still nothing changed. We've been together for two years. Thanks for your answers. Just want to confirm my doubts.
2007-02-08 22:37:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Something is really wrong here. He is not telling you the truth. I can't begin to guess why he might be avoiding you but you have every reason to expect that a man who cares for you would want to express that through touching you in all kinds of ways.
His excuses are just that. If it were me I think I would do my best to approach him in a very open way and let him know he won't be judged for telling the truth. If he senses too much hurt he may not be very honest. Stay off the subject of other men and focus on your love for him. Keep trying to get him to open up. You might even suggest the reasons you suspect he is holding back (another woman? to much masturbation? your appearance? fear of failure?) and then suggest therapy specifically for sexual dysfunction. Touchy, I know but a caring partner will submit if he wants things to improve.
2007-02-08 23:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek conselling! So you both can find out what the problem really is. You have only been together for 2 years! Try to spice things up in the bedroom. Take a vacation and renew the spark. 2 years is still a young relationship.
2007-02-09 00:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by Flipgal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your doubts are understandable. I think you should fix whatever is wrong with the relationship, or end it. What you have now, wouldn't be much of a loss. It takes two to make a relationship work, but it can be destroyed by just one. Your partner may have some issues that you need to address. Or kick his butt to the curb.
2007-02-09 12:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe...it depends on the partner I'm with now. If I knew that Zacky Vengeance really and truly loved and wanted me more than anyone/anything else(besides his family and band,etc.) I probably would.
2016-05-24 00:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your partner is an assshole. and please dont let him play with your self esteem, I bet he has something about him that is not attractive attack wht ever is about him that you think it would be a turn off... is a matter a fact leave the jack asss A.S.A.P because you said it your self you are attractive and other men finds you desirable.. get one that could appreciate that and your inner beauty also, and have a great life you will see this man is going to end up with some cow that looks like what he deserve to have.. leave him do it for your self and you will see your life is going to be better.. good luck.
2007-02-09 00:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If hes masturbating theres obviously nothing wrong with his sex drive but that must be very hurtful to you. Have u asked him if he still fancies you? Maybe u could try dressing in some sexy underwear or buy some sex toys, it might help. Failing that, and u probably wont wanna hear this, is he getting it from someone else?
2007-02-08 22:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by julie n 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this but I would just cut my losses, sex is important to me too and if my husband never wanted me and was mastubating and not meeting my needs then I don't thik I could stay, because it's more then sex there are other underlying issues.
2007-02-08 23:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.......anyone so shallow as to say he doesn't want to make love to you because of stretch marks doesn't deserve your love. Don't waste any more time with him...you are too valuable!
2007-02-08 22:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the way he has been behaving I wouldn't even try to make things work, just pack my things and leave.
2007-02-08 23:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make one last attempt at counselling before u leave him.it is his drinking which has got onto him.try taking him to a counsellor.
2007-02-08 22:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by natasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋