does anyone belive in a marrige getting back to a good term when its going down right now?

Question

i have got hooked in meth bad,and my marrige went down she left me well we seperated,ivbeen depressed severly,but finneaally im gonna get coulsing,ive kicked the drugs,and doing it for me but i still have the hope my wife and kids amd me may be a family agen.She hasent devorsed meyet so to me there is still a small chance.

Answer 1

How willing are you to work hard for it? Because it's going to take hard work for you to get your family back, and at the same time, to stay off the drugs. Good luck with this, and I really mean it.......Remember your family is the most important thing in your life, you don't want to loose them forever, Continue to ask god for strength, he will hear your prayers!!!!!

Answer 2

You really messed up didn't you. You are doing the right things. Getting help with your drug problem is a big step and getting counseling is another big step. The only way to find out if you can get your family back is to be honest and straight-forward. Talk to your wife. You probably have a great many things to apologize for and you have to do it. Are you paying child support? If not you need to start doing that right away. Start showing her you have changed. The words don't mean much if the behaviors are the same as when you were on drugs. You must not only say you have changed you must show her. If she hasn't divorced you yet there is still hope but you cannot afford to mess up again. I will pray that God will help you continue to stay clean and I will wish you good luck with your wife.

Answer 3

It really depends on how hard you work at it. Your family and you deserve a better life make sure you get that counselling there is plenty of help out there take all the help you can get if you have not already done so start by talking to a doctor. Good luck.

Answer 4

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1. No marriage is ever a mistake.

Every marriage is a cosmic event.

No marriage is an accident.

Even bad marriages are holy and sacred.

Sometimes we are not big enough to hold

the blessing, but that doesn't mean that we

should throw away the blessing. After you are

married, you have to know that this is the one

G-d chose for you. Love is not always active.

Sometimes, it is dormant. Even if you sometimes feel you don't

love your spouse (G-d forbid!) you can still treat each other well

and with respect just because you are married to each other.



2. Watch for your patterns. If they are counter-productive,

work to break your habits. Usually anger in marriage is caused

by unconscious patterns. Often we cannot see our own patterns

. Find a mentor that you trust and respect who can guide you on

an ongoing basis about your problems. The next time you find

yourself growing irritated, ask yourself: What feelings are being

aroused in me? What can I learn from this? What do I need to fix

in myself?



3. Ask yourself: What will my next decision bring,

unity or disunity? Not everything is a big deal. Before you act,

before you get irritated or angry, ask yourself: How important is

this problem really? Is it worth destroying the unity of my

marriage? Look for the magic moment of choice. In every

moment we must decide: Will I be self-centered or other-

centered?



4. Build trust and respect. How do you build trust in the

home? Fulfill your word. When you say you are going to do

something, be sure to do it or ask permission to change the

plan. Be willing to give criticism in a gentle, respectful way.

Don't try to change things when you are emotional. Plan a time

to problem-solve together when you feel calm and rested.

Find the right time. Find the right words to express your needs.

Have a clear agenda in advance. Be willing to accept criticism.

Criticism that hurts is usually accurate. Try to separate how well

you do from who you are, so that you can be more effective in

what you do without suffering from ego bruises. If you find it hard

to trust others, find someone trustworthy and trust them with

something small.



5. Make space in your life. How do two people who are

worlds apart come together? Make space in your life, in your

time, to include another, not just physical space, but spiritual

space. Move yourself out of the center to create a space for

somebody else in your life.



6. Respect each other's boundaries. Everybody needs

privacy. Let your family know when you need time and space for

yourself. Don't just get cranky and expect them to know. .

"I love you and care about you, but I can't stand what's going

on right now." This is honesty with trust.

Answer 5

I don't know, people here say there is always a chance and there is, but drugs is one thing that is hard to give a person a second chance over. Users often swear they quit but then get back into it, as a mother your wife has a reponsibility to keep her children safe and she removed them from a dangerous situation, I doubt that she is going to want to expose them to that again.

Answer 6

There is a fairly good chance, provided u change your attitude, and understand her, and her needs. U know why the marriage has gone to piece, if u are willing to put the effort u may be able to patch up, and with correct attitude and lots of love, make it as good as new. Everything is possible in love, if both parties are willing.

Answer 7

There is always a chance but it does depend on you. You get your priorities straight and see what works best for you and what you value most. If your family comes first, then the answer is obvious. But if your addiction is more important then you have to go with that.
Good luck.

Answer 8

Are you in a drug rehab program for this problem? Are you chaning and getting over this drug habit and addiction? You need counseling and help before even wanting to be back with her. You also need to go to marriage counseling with her if she still wants you and the marriage. BUT you have to prove to her that you are changing first! Do not play her either. You also need to talk with a medical doctor about your depression. Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him off that site for help and advice in this matter as well!

Answer 9

Honey, go back to school. Stay off the drugs for a couple of years and find good employment. Keep a job for those same couple of years and THEN worry about whether or not she divorces you. Also, use the "check spelling" button for your questions. It will make them easier for the rest of us to understand.

Answer 10

It might be a long hard road but there is always a chance if you are prepared to work at it.