is there anyone out there who has experience of this and can they tell me if they waited for the person or left and what happened
2007-02-08 22:17:55 · 8 answers · asked by maid marion 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes the time was very wrong but the person the rightest ever
we left it to life to show us the way ... u never know what is waiting for u
2007-02-08 22:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met someone many years ago, after screaming to the heavens, & he seemed to be the answer.
But he had a girlfriend. He wasn't happy. She was seeing other guys & his heart was breaking.
I sent him a rose & a message telling him I loved him.
No answer.
I realised he didn't want me. Then he made a pass at me.
I was still feeling rejected so I didn't go for it.
Then I nurtured strong feelings of desire for him for a very long time, seeing him occasionally for chats.
He was helpful / supportive but sometimes he annoyed me cos he has strange views EG. "people only have sex to have kids."
By then he had 6? kids with different women!!
I decided to ask him to his face if he did actually love me.
When I got there he was with his new woman & baby.
He asked me not to go but I ran off, horrified.
We carried on meeting occasionally, to have chats.
Then I realised I couldn't go on, always hoping to see him, being disappointed, so i made plans to move away.
Then he came round & suggested we had sex.
If he had said "make love" I might have responded - so I ended up making pathetic excuses.
I moved away, started a new relationship, I had my 2nd baby.
We stayed in vague contact.
His relationship failed when she went off with another man.
Then he put me down saying women who had babies are not attractive.
Then he said on the phone "how could you leave me?"
I have the strangest suspicion he is waiting for me to return
(that could be my ego!)
So he can screw me & add me to his list of conquests?
I still dream about him but perhaps I'm in love with a fantasy?
Maybe he's not my ideal I just wanted him to be?
Or maybe he is my soul mate & I just was too frightened to go with that cos it was too right & the prospects were frightening?
I dunno!
I know it's costing me a lot of wasted time, grief & confusion!
2007-02-09 07:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother married our cousin. They are both in their
forties. My brother got married 25 years ago and did not
realise that our cousin had feelings for him. It was only
after he divorced and she was a single mom that we were
at a family gathering that they got close. After all these
years she revealed to him that on the day that he got
married she remembered standing in the congregation
and felt her heart would break. She felt that he belonged
with her. So - 30years later they have tied the knot. They
are so happy but if they had chose to be together all them
years ago it would surely be frowned upon. It is legal -
the vicar married them in our local church (Church of
England). Even now my cousin can,t believe that she
is finally with 'the love of her life'.
2007-02-09 06:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person is my first love. We were together when I was very young for six years. He broke up with me coz he wanted to be sure that I was the right one. I was single then and he got engaged. I met another guy got engaged and became pregnant. Then my first love was single and wanted me back. I did not want to leave the father of my child. Eventually my relationship with that guy ended and I was single while my first love was involved again. Then I met my husband to be, we are getting married in a few months. Now my first love wants me back again. I think and believe that everything in life happens for a reason. Follow your heart, not your head. Look for signs. deep inside yourself you know what you want to do.
Good luck!
2007-02-09 06:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by Spokie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married the person that i though was the right one, i dont think you really know what you want till you are older and more wise, now i have to deal with it
2007-02-09 07:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course but if the stars are not aligned, I move on
2007-02-09 06:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i left after 13 years she was cheating she got everything i got nothing but i still care its hard but ill get over it
2007-02-10 09:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by mary a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-02-09 06:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by tootytoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋