I feel as though i don't deserve the pleasure.
2007-02-08 22:15:00 · 5 answers · asked by IzzieB 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yes and no...
yes, because it never became a pleasure to you when you were a child...
yes, because you have this guilty feeling and you cannot relax...
yes, because you do not have the right mind before... to think it through...
yes, because you were forced upon by someone you do not wish to give yourself...
yes, because in your childhood the great beautiful world you knew was taken away from you...
yes, because you lived in fear... of it...
yes, because you have been under the mercy of someone more powerful than you...
yes, because you felt nothing... you became insignificant...
yes, because you might not forgive the person who did this to you...
yes, because you have lived a life that is not filled with wondrous beauty, but with fear and rejection and apathy and anger...
no, because you can change the way to feel the pleasure...
no, because you can learn how to relax and let your defenses fall to the right person.
no, because you have the mind to change all things...
no, because you can give yourself fully to a person...
no, because you can still find the beauty around you...
no, because you can go against the fear...
no, because you are now a powerful being...
no, because you can still feel and be a very significant person to yourself...
no, because you have the choice to forgive...
no, because you can live the life you choose... with courage... with acceptance... with caring... with joy... and love...
You have a choice my dear friend... Choose to be someone that is against what happened, but turned out to be the best person you can be...
relax and give yourself fully to another with courage and the feeling that you deserve to feel the love that is in the act of copulation...
Have fun... ;-)
2007-02-08 23:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by DEADPOOL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I am having the same problems you are experiencing, it really took over me, now I cannot have sex without having a panic attack, or feeling immense fear and guilt, it causes some to do terrible things to myself, like tearing my hair out, cutting myself with razors, sitting in a cold shower just trying to feel clean, it has got a hold on me and liek you I just can't seem to get in control, I think the only answer is to resolve the issues of your past with some intense counselling, I heard about something called spychodynamic psychotherapy, sound helpful but I have yet to get enough courage to try it.
I have not lost hope that I can heal from my experiences, so don't give up. I am 24 have been raped by two of my previous partners and endured sexual abuse from a number of adult makes around me since the age of 4. It is hard but I truly think there is a way out, we just need to find the courage within ourselves to heal, I know that if I do not do something soon, I will end up killing myself, because it is just that bad and seems so hopeless, I am glad to have found someone in the same situation, maybe we can help each other get through it.
2007-02-08 23:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is typical of sexual abuse survivors, but it is not normal by any means. You deserve to enjoy good,sexy love. Please read The Courage to Heal - Third Edition - Revised and Expanded: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis, recover and be blessed.
2007-02-08 22:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.It is not normal ,rather it is linked with your childhood.
2.You have to cathart the guilt about sex which you experienced during childhood abuse.
3. To cathart you should do meditation as advised by Osho .
Meditation technique and all help are available on wave: www.osho.com
2007-02-08 22:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by binda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. But there is people who can help you deal with this, if you can't do it alone...
2007-02-08 22:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋