Is it really rape???

Question

My g/f knows this girl who said she was raped and as a result had twins. This sounded believable to me but, being a skeptic, I had to question this. I know alot of girls that said they have been "raped" but this girl thrives off of the "system" and refuses to get a job because she will lose benefits if she does. She is taking courses at college and is nice but she is young enough ( 19-20) to where this so-called rape might be statutory and she is playing it for what it's worth.

What are your experiences with "welfare mothers"??

Answer 1

they are generally pretty feisty.

hope this helps!!! :)

Answer 2

So long as her children are being looked after in a loving home free from abuse and neglect, the rest is none of our business.
I have no experience with so called Welfare mothers but I have two children of my own and know that raising children is hard work and getting a job is a much easier way to make money! Sometimes working means that you end up with less money than if you are on welfare because even when subsidised daycare is expensive. You say she thrives on welfare. Is she living the high life? In a flash house witha big flashy late model car and eating out at fine restaurants? I do not think welfare offers that much. It is important for a mother to be there for her children and if welfare helps her to raise her children then that is good for them.

Answer 3

"Refuses to get a job"? Honey, she has 2x hard 24hr jobs, and she's taking a course, if she had to pay for childcare so she could work there would be NO money left to eat and pay bills. Even if the kids were at school she would need that time to do all of the things that are hard to do when they're home, oh and catch up on very important sleep. She has it very hard and is making a good go of it. When she feels she can cope (and if she doesn't the kids will suffer) she will complete her studies and get a job. Poor girl has missed out on living her life and lived through an awful ordeal with two constant reminders. Wish I were that strong. Cut her some slack.

Answer 4

Being raped is one thing. Not getting a job is something different.

If someone says they're raped, I try to believe em and help. But contrary to what people here are saying, some girls DO lie. I know this from the news plus firsthand experience of a friend that told me she was raped and it turned out to be a lie. Later she admitted she said it to get attention. Sad but true.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

First of all.. it seems that you really don't know this girl and therefore don't know all the facts! Plus, being young, having twins and going to school is a very hard and very time demanding thing to juggle. As long as she is trying to be a good Mom, and is trying to educate herself then I think that this is what our systems are made for. Personally I think you should concentrate on other things, leave this girl alone and stop being so judgemental.

Answer 7

I just have one thing to say as a person that was raped.....Its people like you that give us a hard time to prove our cases in courts......If she says she was raped, then she was...and so what if she had twins.....a rapist won't take the time to put on a condom......as for welfare mothers as you call them, sometimes people need the help.........so lay off and stop judging people...get to know them first.

Answer 8

My experience with welfare mothers.

They are doing twice the amount of work you are buddy. I'd like to see you work 24x7 and have to go without what you want and need. You probably think you are receiving a response from a mother on welfare...hardly. I'm a professional in Australia who thinks snob asses like you deserve a feel for their lives.

How dare you doubt a woman being raped. Maybe one day when some man finds you his type and penetrates your back side, don't come begging for people to believe you. You sick son of ****.

Answer 9

i think u are quite ignorant and judgemental. The term "welfare Mothers" comes across as degrading and unfair, U cannot judge everyone on the welfare as being scroungers, as u have implied by your question. I think u should stop worrying about others and get on with your own life

Answer 10

Were you there when the alleged rape occurred? If not, how can you say she is milking the system unless you were there and saw what went on when she conceived these children?
It does not sound to me like she is milking the system; afterall' she is going to college and trying to better herself. She deserves credit for that.

Answer 11

You gotta get your facts right. It is insane to say that she didn´t really get raped without knowing first. And welfare, is free money basically. Maybe she is, maybe not, but really it is none of your business. And I can promise you that any woman would be offended if you had to question that.