I have a housemate and she has been cheating on her boyfriend for almost two years with a married man who works with us and her boyfriend knew about this since she told him that they were in love so they broke up and the guy forgave her blaming himself that he made her making such a mistake and that he will never do that again. The girl didn't stop the affair with that married man and they were meeting secretly without the guy realising it. The guy suspected her as she was always recieving messages and calls from that married man but the girl always denied that.So this guy yesterday called me asking us to meet so that he can narrate the whole truth about his girlfriend and that she has to ask me if i knew something about them and indeed we met and i told him what i knew,so the guy caught them together and the girl told me that her boyfriend caught her and she said the one who did that,she is going to deal with him/her, i told her that i do not know anything but i feel guilty and scared
2007-02-08 21:55:45 · 8 answers · asked by peedee 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
you did right, you saved the poor man from this flirty type girl.....i dont think you should be scared at any point. you helped some one know the truth, and that is a good job. you should be proud of your work, and leave thinking about it. such people are never strong enough to harm you any way, they just know how to warn, as just to get one off their way. good job just keep up the spirite and blieve in yourself. yet if you are afraid she might do sth, then keep some kinda security stuff with ya all da time.
2007-02-08 22:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, you were put in awkward situation. Sounds like you got stuck in the middle of a very unfair situation that was totally out of your control, but somehow you became invovled with. These situations are always hard because you want to be a good friend(I assume yourr friends with this girl), but at the same time your friend is doing something, very wrong by lying to her boyfriend, cheating and having an affair with a married man! You also live with this person so you see them everyday which can be hard to deal with aswell. I don't think that you were the one is the wrong. You told the truth, you didn't do the cheating, you didn't lie, you aren't having the affair. I think you need to sit down with your hiusemate and tell her that you told the guy the truth.. that he asked and you couldn't lie to him. Try to explain that she has to stop this because she is hurting so many people... her boyfriend, if the mans wife were to find out and family, you (because now look at your situation!) and herself! Good luck! Be strong! You may lose a freind and housemate, but I think you did the right thing!
2007-02-09 06:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the old saying goes "She made her now she must lie in it!". To begin with she shouldn't be two timing her boyfriend and secondly she shouldn't be going out with a married man. All you have done is tell the truth (apart from to your "friend" who shouldn't put you in this situation), she has done all the bad things and to be honest what goes around comes around! You should stand up to her and say that you told her boyfriend as you knew this would potentially ruin many peoples happiness including hers .
2007-02-09 06:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by ehc11 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do some people think it is okay to cheat and expect friends to help them continue the lies?
What a horrible situation to be in!
You haven't done anything wrong - she has! So don't feel guilty!
She needs to accept that she deserves what she gets. I'm afraid only you can decide whether to come clean or keep quiet. Will the guy tell her how he found out? Perhaps you could speak to him again?
Good luck with this one, remember you haven't done anything wrong!
2007-02-09 06:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by Take me to Venice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, i tkink you did the right thing. her boyfriend doesnt deserve that. Shes living a lie thats not acceptable. I know it may look like you were being medalsome; but it is the best thing for everybody. It not fair to her boyfriend, or her "secret boyfriends" wife; its also not fair to you. Three people should not be forced to live a lie for the sake of adutry and immorality.
im not exactly sure if i would have told; but i would have wanted to, and that took some serious balls.
NOW, hopefully she can move on and be done with him. Her boyfriend needs to leave her. Hes doesnt deserve to be with someone who is not going to respect, going to lie, and cheat on him.
Dont be scared............ if it comes back to you. Just remind her of what she was doing (cheating) remind her what she was causing the secret lover to do (adulty; which is illegal) remind her who she was hurting (her boyfriend, secret mans wife, and you.)
you shouldnt have to see your roomate live a lie...........you did the right thing. Remember that.
GOOD LUCK
2007-02-09 06:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by B.Billups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a right nasty person? i think you done the right thing and at the end of the day she shouldnt be putting it about especially when shes with someone? and cheating with a married man, i assume he has children? shes a home wrecker as well as a s**t? id tell her the truth and own up, stand tall and defend yourself mate, dont be intimidated by her after all shes the one in the wrong and shes the one that bought you into it when u found out what she was upto?some people just aint happy with wot they got (greedy).she dont deserve you?pls dont b scared?
2007-02-09 06:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by jemzi123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She put you in an impossible situation.
You covered her back for as long as you could.
If she threatening you with bodily harm?
Or other vicious revenge?
If so, I'd let her know you wont tolerate that abuse.
She is obviously an abusive bit of scum
who hurts people.
So don't feel bad, cos you did good by putting this poor bloke out of his misery.
2007-02-09 06:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time mind ur own business. you should have told her to stop or dump his bf or come up with the truth because u r getting dragged into it.
Start the conversation and tell her, listen he confronted me and he said he knew the truth so he asked me to confirm, i had no choice i couldnt lie to something that obvious. im sorry i spoiled ur relationship but why do u even care?
2007-02-10 18:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋