i live with my gf and we just found out that we are pregnent she is going to her frends tonight to cach up all i aksed was that she get a cab home and can she give me a ruth time that she is going to be comeing home or ill be up all night worrying and she whent mad the problem i have is when we talked about having a child she told me that she would not smoke or drink but she still is i othered to stop with her and she said no what do you think i shoud do.i love her so much but this is upsetting me please help.
2007-02-08 21:44:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
It makes me mad to see that a women will not stop smoking and drinking when she is carrying another life in her, tell her she is selfish for causing futur harm to you guys baby, and yes you should stop to, be a good role model.
2007-02-08 23:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by echc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right. For the sake of the baby she should stop drinking and smoking. It is a good idea to do this together as you have suggested because it will make it easier for her to stop and protect baby from the effects of passive smoking. Perhaps you can convince her to talk to her doctor about this so s/he can outline all the reasons why she needs to look after her health and the baby's. Will her friends do the right thing and ecourage her to stop? perhaps you could talk to her best friend and ask for her help.
2007-02-08 21:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be very responsible of you to give up smoking anyway. Its not only smoke in the air that contributes to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, it is also the smell in your hair and on your clothes. So I think you should sit down with your gf and tell her that you are going to give up smoking - starting now! because you want to be the best parent you can and give your child the best start in life - make sure you tell her the reason why you are giving it up and dont forget the 'I love you' and 'our baby' bit in there somewhere too.
2007-02-08 22:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by poshkeri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so sorry to hear that.ok first thing to know about pregnancy is that the female hormones are working over time for the next 9 months.shes gonna have mood swings,be emotional ,crabby,happy,sick,depressed and so on. its ok if she wants to have a dink,BUT in moderation .a glass of wine every now and then is ok.smoking.hum....well;im ashamed to say it but i smoked while pregnanct and not proud of it.i cut down from 20 a day to just 3 a day.smoke half and put it out till the next time.by 3 months she will probably hate the smell of smoke and make her feel sick. the more pressure you put on her the more she will rebell agaist you and do what she wants.if you smoke,try giving them up with her.my baby was born early and spend 2 weeks in an incubator on a machine to help him breath because i was stupid and selfish.try talking to her calmly and in a quiet manner.if things get heated,walk away without saying anything to her.
2007-02-08 21:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your not silly. i used with both my kids and it is sooooo wrong.I'm in a 12 step program so i see the long term effects of drinking every day.it only takes on drink for fetal alcohol syndrome in many cases.please help get the message to her asap look up on line about it and show her.
best of luck one other thing you can do is pray about it. i hope this helps?
2007-02-08 23:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by chris w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 06:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i do not think your being silly i think your being concerned about her and your baby there is nothing wrong with that she should stop drinking and smoking its bad for the baby
2007-02-08 21:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋