My friend is married to a Gambian who is secretly texting and has joined a dating agency. I am NOT a rasist!!!!!! and neither do I understand the Gambian culture but I do know my friend, she is loving and very caring. She has been married for only a few months and she is currently going through bankcruptcy. Her husband works but sends all his money back home to build on a compound for his parents or something to that effect and even her Ex partner is giving her money in front of her husband to buy gas and electric for her and her daughter.
She constantly asks me and my wife what she should do and asks us to check his email to see if her suspicions can be founded. She said that she is going to throw him out but never does, I have got to a point where I have told her that I am here for her and always will be but I don't want to know anymore about her marriage problems as she is not prepared to do anything about it herself, this was a very hard thing for me to say!!!!.
2007-02-08 21:40:58 · 5 answers · asked by Tooly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look I'm not racist either but these Gambians are stereotypically known to treat women as inferior, call it culture, call it what you will, but whatever their 'culture' is it's no good, they've never been any good and will never be any good, they have babies all over the place with different stupid women and spread STDs, it's in their makeup and breeding and they won't change. I'm guessing your friend maybe an older lady and this guy is younger. You can't tell her what to do because if she'd have listened to advice in the first place she probably wouldn't have married him. It's on the cards that she will get hurt.
2007-02-08 21:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your friend has married into a culture that she knows nothing about and now she is finding that out.
She sounds like a weak woman and as there is a child involved I think she should count her loses (which from the sounds are not that many!)and leave - or better still tell him to leave.
She should put the needs of her baby first - the child will sense unhappiness and this will effect her as she gets older.
If she doesn't do this (leave him I mean), just continue to support her although I know this can be frustrating - she will see sense eventually.
Maybe show her these answers....
2007-02-08 22:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by EMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help her if she is unwilling to help herself.
Is she waiting to find the evidence smack in her face?? I think she has not convinced her self emotionally that he could be a cheat. Until she becomes real, there is absolutely nothing more you can do. I would not listen to her go on and on about it.. I would tell her to do something or not talk to me about it....
Do not meddle in her affairs, this is her battle, and she must wage war not you....if something goes wrong, she might try to blame you.. people can be very funny about this kind of thing and become very protective of cheating spouses........
2007-02-08 21:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give into spying for her or encourage her raging. I also wouldn't waste my time in giving her unheeded advice. Confine your friendship to activities outside her marital problems and if there are none then you have no friendship to begin with.
2007-02-08 21:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rasist? what's that?
2007-02-08 21:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋