the other day she said she wants a divorce and the day before that everything was perfect like anyother day i dont get it she went out with her sisters and ever since then she just has her mind set on leaving me tried to talk about it but nothing helps she is leaving and there is nothing that is going to stop her i might have neglected her a couple of times with my work i am working on the computer about 15 hours a day running my own business but i have always taken time out for her everything so i dont think it has anything to do with it she just told me she dosent love me anymore and wants tto leave we have no kids we both decided not to have any until we got older so what should i do what should i think i never thought this would happen i always did everything right but she has nothing to do with me ive been with her ever since we where kids and now i am almost 30 i wouldnt even know how to look for another woman help!
2007-02-08 21:22:39 · 13 answers · asked by c.cmilitary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
since she seemed to change after being with her sisters i think they had alot to do with the way she is acting. it has to do with something with in her, has nothing to do with anything u have done to her. just distance yourself from her, don't beg or plead with her, just tell her she is free to go, and if she changes her mind maybe seek counseling, if she goes u have to accept that too. she is under some bad influence from somewhere, listening to the wrong people taking the wrong advice. all the talking in the world won't make a difference when they want to go, so let her go and maybe she will see she really does love u, but she has to leave to be able to see it. it may not turn out the way u want it to, just have to say some prayers about it, and know that whatever happens was mean to happen.
2007-02-09 00:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy who understands getting hit from the blindside.
I think women often do not understand when they have it well off.
You work, you provide, give her a home, love and affection and out of the blue she says I want a divorce.
If you are not abusive or angry all the time what can she use as an excuse except " You do not pay attention and neglect me".
HELLO, I'm the guy who is working here!
I hate to say this and it is a high risk move, but I think you need to give her what she is asking for.
The big difference is this. If she wants to go put her out. Do not let her pack, get to the bank accounts, none of that. Take her to her closet throw some clothes in a bag and to the street. Where she goes from there is her problem, you gave her what she wants. Change the locks and do not let her back until she provides some explanation and some desire to stay.
There is a serious wake up call required here.
The sisters can support her butt for a while and see what they have brought to her. They sound very much like Yahoo answers people who say " you deserve to be happy" and "leave him" at the drop of a hat.
If you have fallen victim to the I'm not in love with you BS put her to the curb. Nothing gets your mind straight quicker than the harsh reality of wondering where you are sleeping and getting your next meal from.
Move your money to a private account give her, her clothes and to the curb. Do not put up with this crap or you will come off as some wimpering mouse, not a man.
If she does not want to be there put her butt out. BUT, big but,
DO not let her hang around make your life more miserable than she already has. Give her EXACTLY what she asked for only accelertate the program. Do it soon. She will either stay away or come to her sences as to what she has lost. Either way you will have your answer quicker and can move forward with your own life.
She is certainly being selfish you might as well be too.
2007-02-08 23:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not think you might be even asking this question. You have 9 children collectively, i can let you know as the mum of four you preserve a little bit of the load after every one. Your body alterations. When you have 9 children after 10 years collectively than she not ever received the hazard to loose the weight after each baby used to be born before you had her expecting the following one. It takes a girl's body as much as 2 years to regulate back to it can be pre-being pregnant state after the start of a youngster. Get off her back, put your dick again into your pants and stay away from her cousin. Start treating her like your wife and the mummy of your children. Provide her the respect she deserves after having 9 of your children. She did not get to this additional one hundred kilos by way of herself...You helped to get her there. Develop up, stop being egocentric, put your family first, do what's first-rate for your youngsters and be a person.
2016-08-10 15:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by liebig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She had a lot of negative influance from her sisters more than likely are they married misery likes company.Let her go she will find out there is nothing out there and want to come back.But that is if you let her right know your thinking yes yes I would but If she does go and tries to come back once burned you just might have second thoughts. Wish you the best lol
2007-02-08 21:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is not going out with her sisters, that is just an excuse you will buy. If she is saying Divorce then that means she is wanting to marry some one else not just leave you or trial separation.
Quit doing things right by her, do something for your self and have some self respect.
2007-02-08 22:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by justpatagn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for what you are going through and I do wish you well, but you must of missed something shes obviously not happy and wants some thing else out of life.
Thank god your young still and don't have 3 children to drag through a divorce.
Life's what you make it and obviously this would have happened sooner or later better for it to be now
2007-02-08 21:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she was bored.you mentioned that you have been together for years, maybe her love for you wasn't so strong. i hope that she doesn't have a lover!! go on with your life it is never too late. meet new people do not run behind her. you only 30 not a bad age for a man to be married again. be strong and remember anything that doesn't kill you makes you stronger.!
2007-02-08 21:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you ask the same question?
Billy Bob D is right. She's gone now it's time to man up and move on. Get a good lawyer and hold on to what's yours. Stop crying and try to maintain your dignity,
2007-02-08 22:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did everything wrong. Listen man you sound like a faithful, loving, caring husband. That is not what women want. Women want men who abuse them, cheat on them, mistreat them and humilitate them in public. Unless you can change into a jerk, no woman will want you.
2007-02-08 22:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard when you childhood lovers...She has found someone else... Hate to be the one to tell you... Maybe your work should have taken second priority.. Every female hates being second best and guess what................she was..... Money is nothing.. I Hate money... But I did earn it, but because I worked so hard, my husband left me.. Love Ali Dubois
2007-02-08 22:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by jillrodenlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋