my daughter is in 4th year hs in an exclusive girl school and the lesbian is from another exclusive girl school.
2007-02-08 21:21:33 · 22 answers · asked by mommy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you continue being her parent, and tending to her needs and making sure you are always there for her...the most you can do is support her in what she wants and still love her no matter what..
2007-02-08 21:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You sound as though you think this situation may be the fault of the other girl as you refer to her as the lesbian. You may have to face facts here which could be that she is not just experimenting but in fact is a lesbian herself. gently bringing the subject up would be the way to go here, however educating yourself on the subject beforehand would be a good idea. Remember your daughter is a young adult now so be careful not to drive her away, you can still be everything you have always been to her. and her to you.Support her and be proud of her hold your head high no matter what Good luck
2007-02-08 22:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by holly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some places and people can be very cruel towards the the gay/lesbian communities. She's also still your daughter. She'll need your support and love. If you're struggling to accept her, then maybe attend a support group to help. If you want a good relationship with your daughter you'll need to be open and accepting. Oh, and be happy for her finding somebody. Get to know her and her girlfriend too. As a parent it's your job to watch out for her. One misconception is that same-sex relationships are all free of physical and emotional abuse. Sadly, it can still happen "in the community." I wish you and your daughter the best!
2007-02-09 07:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to handle it, there is nothing wrong.
You continue to be her loving mother as I am sure you always have been. If you both have an open and communicative relationship you could open up to her and let her know that you know and that nothing has changed.
Be a part of her life, she has found someone she cares about, so how would you normally respond to her finding someone she cares about? Be supportive, loving and kind that is the best for both of you.
2007-02-08 23:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Swallow any sense of disappointment or guilt (how could I have raised her to be lesbian?) - you WILL go through something like the stages of bereavement. Ask her if she is happy with this girl and be satisfied that she has someone to whom she feels close and with who she can face those late teenage troubles of High School.
You are her mother. It may not be something you wanted for her, you need not approve - but you must (eventually) accept.
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2007-02-08 21:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your daughter is 18 and a young woman and capable of living her life as she is. You cannot change this. If you want to maintain a loving relationship with your daughter you have to continue to love her and support her. She didn't choose to be lesbian.
2007-02-08 21:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
hello. I have decided to answer this question for you the best i can. I think it is nothing to worry about. firstly she is your daughter and you love her. i know that it is not easy to be faced with this but if this is what she wants and she is happy with her partner then there is nothing you can do about it. secondly she is a young woman and at this age 18 she is still discovering herself. don't worry about it talk to her calmly and don't shout or force her to stop because it wont help the situation.
2007-02-09 02:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by xx or xy¿Ø↔♀♂♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't, she's an adult and if you bring it up to her in a way where she'll become defensive or embarassed you'll only create a wedge between the two of you. I'd hate for my mother to question me if I were in her situation... Would you be as questioning if it were a guy? At least she won't get pregnant and drop out.
2007-02-08 23:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by Annabella Stephens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to support her...just because she's in a lesbian relationship doesn't make her any less of your daughter.
Let her be how she is without having to worry about loosing a parent.
2007-02-08 22:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by shark_315 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Handle what? she's 18 when she's ready to share her sexual identity with you she will. On the other hand this might be a phase which will pass and then she'll get on the hetero path.
2007-02-08 22:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rejecting her or her girlfriend will only push them closer together - and rip you and your daughter further apart. Tell her you love her no matter what, and treat the girlfriend as you would any of your other children's partners.
Isn't her happiness what's most important?
2007-02-08 21:35:27 · answer #11 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋