Why do people get married?

Question

Why do people spend half of their lives finding a mate and then spend rest half thinking why are they with them?

Answer 1

I chose my mate by the time I was 21 and will never regret it. He is the greatest man I know. I could live a successful life without him, but why should I when he is such a wonderful source of solace, comfort, encouragement and friendship?

Answer 2

If a person spends half their life just searching for a mate, that is the first problem. True love comes to you it is not searched out and found. If you search for something hard enough, you may have thought you found it, because you just want it so badly. Sounds like this could have been the case with you, or whoever you are refering to.

I know that I love my husband very much, and I was not looking for a relationship or marriage when I met him. I myself never find myself thinking why am I with him. I would not want to spend any of my life without him.

Answer 3

Great question. It is because they marry for the wrong reasons and not the right ones. If they marry for the right reason they wonder how could i have lives without them for so long. They are honored and thankful to be with them and to be married to that person.

Answer 4

People get married because they want to spend their life with someone; making the right choice involves both people.

You just have to do your best to evaluate both yourself AND your potential spouse, in terms of:

- shared interests, rather than separate interests and friends.

- sufficient sense of compromise, so you can work out problems with a minimum of trouble.

- sufficient sense of sympathy and forgiveness, because you're going to screw up on occasion. You learn from the mistake, you forgive, and you move on.

Plus, too many couples - regardless of age - are just not emotionally mature enough to live harmoniously with another person.

Too often, there's too much "me" and not enough "we."

Answer 5

Hmm, they do that? I'm getting married because my lover and I have made a commitment to eachother for life, the marriage/religious part is just to please our families. The legal part is just part of it even though in our country common law marriage is the same as ceremonial marriage. Really, the wedding, the ritual, the whole damn thing is to please the crazed religious nuts I'm related to. We just love eachother and want to be together forever. Yea, if in a few years we're saying to ourselves "why???!" it's because we love/d eachother and made that commitment. Maybe it's some weird human flaw. Ah well.

Answer 6

they see something in that other person they think is going to complete them, something they don't have in life. and when the honeymoon stage is over they see that expectations weren't met, that they are still lacking in something, and they wished they had selected more wisely. people marry to get something, when they don't get exactly what they want when they want it, they give up too easily and never communicate to the other just what they need.

Answer 7

because they make the decision when they are madly in love. Then when the novelty wears off, they start second guessing the decision.

A forever deal that costs so much money to get out of really is a bad decision in the long run.

Answer 8

Good question! Because people are insecure and think that if they get married then they will always be protected and will never be on their own. Its a shame that they have to lose their souls in order to obtain these delusions.

Answer 9

Beats me... I would prefer to just live with them instead of going to the expense of the wedding... But that is AFTER 10 years of marriage... :D

Answer 10

It's called "temporary insanity with lingering results"