Yes, I do know you shouldn't get in laws involved with marriage
problems. My husband is younger than me and it seems to him
whatever I say is a "nag". I've tried several ways to talk to
him but it doesn't work. In this case, will in laws be any help?
2007-02-08 20:48:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh no, not the in-laws !!
When women feel like they are not being listened to we do nag.
So go out have some fun together and a couple of days after that chat, don't make a big deal just casual chat and through out the days/ weeks build it up to the important things, don't forget to chat about positive fun things to.
Keep trying and you will eventually find the right tactics to get good results.
Its awful when you are in the middle of a bad patch, but remember as long as you both keep your eyes on the prize you will work through it.
2007-02-08 21:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by bambam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I by no means know your or your husband, but..... with the subject line saying "How can I talk to a YOUNG husband" that right there tells me that maybe you in fact treat him like he is young and maybe even dumb! I assume that you dated this "young" husband before you married him for awhile. If so, you would have realised that if he is truly younger and has younger ways at looking at things, he had them then as well. Getting in laws or other's involved usually is not the best way to go. Sounds like maybe you need to let your husband feel that he is on the same level as you. Then maybe he will not feel like you are being a "nag"
2007-02-09 04:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends how close you are with the inlaws.
Some inlaws stay out of it all and wont get invovled. Others will dislike you if you try to make their baby boy look bad. I wouldnt bother approaching unless its a serious enough issue (ie. drug use). Work on developing a good relationship with your inlaws in case you ever need to rely on their help. Family politics arent always nice.
2007-02-09 04:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it will make things worse. By getting your in laws to be involved, he will feel pressurised by you. The relation will be worse. I don't really know how old are both of you but I think your husband may not be mature enough.
2007-02-09 06:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage counseling is the answer here. Inlaws wont be unbiased and as helpful. Seek counseling and help for this problem. I dont feel that the inlaws will be of any help here.
2007-02-09 06:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in-laws will probably side with him... perhaps you should have lived together first and learned about each other before committing to marriage... now you'll be seen as a nag and he'll probably cheat and find someone less "naggy"... :D
2007-02-09 04:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How young is he? Maybe you need to get his building blocks out and play with him awhile to get his full attention.
2007-02-09 06:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just get off his back
2007-02-09 05:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by mycatsdead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋