my wife is thinking of us getting separated for about a year or so. i havent seen my family since I'm in the military and im currently deployed and there in a different country also. I'm trying to bring them to the u.s. so we could be a family again but there's just so much red tape, it takes too long to bring them to the u.s. I love my wife and son so much. We've been married for more than a year and she's already giving up..how do i convince her to stay? how do i convince her to make this sacrifice...
2007-02-08 20:20:25 · 11 answers · asked by concerned husband 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
on the good side, she misses you and her threatening to elave is probably her way of get your attetion and letting you know how frustrated she is. you need to try to explain as openly as possible every detail of your situation and ask her what she would rather have you do to make the situation better. from there, try to compromise with her what can be done so that the interets of your relationship as a couple and your family....
2007-02-08 21:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by therna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the entire story here but...here goes nothing!
My spouse is active duty military and wants a separation but hasn't began the paper work. I myself am tired of being jerked around like a pupet on strings. If he's going to do it then just do it. Okay, it's been since May and here it is February. So, to make a long story short, I went to the JAG only to find out there's not a damn thing that I can do here in Japan. I was married in Va so I have to obtain separation papers from that court house. In all honesty, I don't think that it's what my husband wants because he's taken our passports, ss cards, birth certificates, and not to mention our marriage license. I can't do a damn thing but be held hostage. I would seek marital therapy. Good luck.
2007-02-09 04:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how much you love her and want her and this marriage. Tell her you will do anything to make this marriage work and to get her over here to the USA.... The military may help you with this if they can. talk to your superiors and tell them your situation you are in. Do you also have family to help you at all with expenses and ways to get her here? Maybe they will give you leave if you can ask for it as this is a family emergency that needs taking care of now. You have to make some sacrifices too . I feel that since she is in another country the military may offer to help you get her over here. Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him from the site and ask him for help in this matter. I think he will try to help you find the resources to do this. I wish you the best and hope you can get her over here soon.
2007-02-09 06:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married for only a year and a year now she is thinking of leaving? So she basically did not want to have a family in the first place.
It seems as if she just wanted to go to the "big PX", that didnt happen so all her hopes are up.
She seems like a very shallow, greedy person.
I feel for you! Be patient and safe where you are at.
2007-02-09 05:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be that hard to get your wife here, I know tons of soldiers who have foreign wives and they all came back to the states with them. With you being deployed it makes this situation that much harder I am sure.Your moral and heart must be taking a real hit. Have you talked with your chaplin, sometimes they are a great source of information.
2007-02-09 06:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
threatening to leave is a plea for some kind of change to occur in her life, if she insist on giving up on it there is very little u can do about it, some people just have no patience when it comes to waiting to get things, they want it right away and life isn't like that. all u can do is talk to her and hope she understands u but if not u have to accept it and let her go in whatever direction she chooses.
2007-02-09 08:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I feel sorry for you man. You must be there for your son, you don't want him growing up without a dad. Also, you don't want some prick to raise him.
This is what you should do, dump the broad, you can get plenty of pvssy elsewhere, and do what you can to get custody of your boy.
Like another dude said on here, she is a typical woman that wants to cut and run. My theory is that she is getting some c0ck on the side so she doesn't even deserve you.
To women these days, it seems to be expected that they continue to sneak around for c0ck. Use this to your advantage and use these broads. This is justice.
2007-02-09 04:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by Billy Bob D 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Leave the military and be loyal to your wife.
2007-02-09 04:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she'll come to the US if you go through the red tape.
2007-02-09 04:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a typical female and will cut and run at the drop of a hat. Also being a typical female she is disloyal and 2-faced. Kick that wench to the curb.
2007-02-09 04:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Bryan _ 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋