To marry some one. Is it only love or other qualities that you looking
2007-02-08 20:10:34 · 6 answers · asked by Baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's the answer I just gave another person:
You just have to do your best to evaluate both yourself AND your potential spouse, in terms of:
- shared interests, rather than separate interests and friends.
- sufficient sense of compromise, so you can work out problems with a minimum of trouble.
- sufficient sense of sympathy and forgiveness, because you're going to screw up on occasion. You learn from the mistake, you forgive, and you move on.
Plus, too many couples - regardless of age - are just not emotionally mature enough to live harmoniously with another person.
Too often, there's too much "me" and not enough "we."
2007-02-08 23:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I was a little girl, I dreamed about being married and having a family. I got pregnant though before marriage and my (at the time) boyfriend didn't want to settle down. I moved on, became a single parent for about a year while dating. I wanted the security and stability a marriage offered as well as a father figure for my daughter. I rushed into marriage for these reasons and remain unhappily married today. I love my husband but find we have poor chemistry and compatibility.
2007-02-09 06:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has alot to do with it but you also are looking for someone who loves you the way that you love them. Someone who is committed to you and loves you unconditionaly who is loyal honest and faithful. Communication is important too. Make sure you know the person real well before marrying them and make sure that you are marrying them for all the right reasons and make sure beyond sure that God is the center of your relationship and marriage from day on and also forgiveness of each others faults and learning how to work through the hard and tough times together is key as well. I also recommend pre marriage counseling.
2007-02-09 05:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose someone that I am completely comfortable with. That makes me laugh, we enjoy sharing ideas and hopes with. Being on the same page with what we want and where we are going. I have heard that looking at and getting to know someones parents will give you a pretty good idea of what that person will be like or not want to be like. Good luck in your quest.
2007-02-09 04:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only love may not be the appropriate one. There is need to look for the person's background, position in society, career involvement, financial stability, code of conduct etc.
2007-02-09 04:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Tere - educator & professor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love
Friendship
Sex
Shared goals
Same values
Same moral code/ethics
Compatability in most areas (need not be perfect tho)
2007-02-09 04:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋