How do I get my wife to stop nagging?

Question

Shes a Capricorn and is the biggest worry wart ever created. Im more laid back and a taurus. I love her very much, but she worries about me too much. I know she does it out of concern, but how do I get it to stop?

Answer 1

She just needs reassurance. Try calling her more often. If she knows that you're thinking about her she won't nag you as often.

Answer 2

Worrying is not nagging to begin with pal. However do things more quicky and dont make her half to ask or speak of it once or twice. You should be glad and thankful that you have a wife that cares and worries about you that much. Some women are selfish and do not care and worry at all. Just tell your wife it will be alright and not to worry but goodness gracious dont knock or get mad at her over it. Just hold and love her and tell her everything will be alright. She sounds like a great and loving wife.

Answer 3

Well my husband went out and found a girlfriend, then he told me he wanted a divorce (a complete shock to me) I said OK (what was I suppose to do cry and plead?) When I started treating him like I didn't give a damn he decided to not divorce me. We stayed marry, we have everything material we could want and two grown successful children. I can't stand his guts. I have never trusted him again. But I did stop nagging, because I don't give a crap, I just stayed for the money and to raise to kids properly.

Answer 4

Well, I know Im just a newly wed but heres some ways that my husband who is a free spirit helped me the office nut unwind
-He will write a list of the stuff I usually worry about and mimic my voice in reading it and then when hes done he says "ok I did all that so dont worry about me ok baby"

-when I start worrying/nagging he giggles and says "thats cute now lets try to say that together in slow motion"

-He starts making siren noises when I wanna nag so it makes me stop and laugh

Basically... act like a nut and make her laugh. Laughter is the best medicine.

Answer 5

Star-Crossed lovers eh?

Well, stars have probably nothing to do with it. Your communication style probably has.

Firstly, you never said what she nags you about. Not taking out the trash? Not cuddling after you make love? Preferring sports to listening to her? All of the above? Women unload verbally under stress, it makes them feel unburdened. Men, especially North American men, retreat or feel threatened. They hear criticism in those words. And criticism makes men run a mile.

So ask yourself, when she communicates, do you "hear" the voice of a critic? Or is she saying, please, please, tell me that you love me by demonstrating it.

Here's the difference:

"Darling, I love it so much when you just hold me and cuddle me after making love. When you do that, I feel so protected and safe".

or

"Turn the TV off! Come back to bed! Why do you never cuddle me and treat me like meat!"

See the difference? Or perhaps...

"I really love it when you take out the trash. You don't know how helpful it is."

As opposed to

"Can you take out the trash? You forgot. You always forget."

Women communicate in relational ways. If she's stressed, or unloading verbally, don't take it as a criticism. Instead ask her if something is bothering her. Did she have a bad day? Can you do anything to help? Come here babe, let me hold you tight til all that stress goes away.

How do you stop her nagging? Listen actively. Hold her hand and look deep into her eyes when shes unloading. Let her know you respond better to praise rather than criticism (heck, doesn't everyone?). Say something like... "this isn't about the trash is it? What happened today?". If criticism is a nasty habit, tell her straight "when you say that, and I know you don't mean it, but when you say that I think you are criticising me".

What she wants is the man who Really Understands, who Really Cares. and yeah, who is considerate enough not to leave his wet towel on the bed, who takes out the trash, and doesn't prefer watching hockey to cuddling and pillow talk. The hardest part about making love is listening. What separates the Men from the Boys, is your ears, not your....er....dignity. It's what you say and do before and after the act of love that really counts, or Cupid's arrows can turn into little darts of resentment, guaranteed to kill your relationship, as sure as infidelity, except very very slowly.

It's the note of gentle, manly, concern in your voice she wants. So she's a stress-merchant. You could be the one to calm her down, if only you knew how, and she probably picked you, over all the others, because you have the potential in your character and personality to do just that. Make sure you cuddle her. Always. A hug stops a nag in full gallop.

Of COURSE you can stop her nagging. All nagging is is a verbal indication she's under stress. Theres nothin' like tender lovin' to get rid of it. How about a foot massage, a hand massage, (ok you talk, but while you are talking, give me your hand) or a back rub. How about taking a bath together? You may find that with the application of a little imagination and your natural intelligence you find that she's loosing that nagging feeling.

But you wanted an astrological answer?

With Venus moving in retrograde through your House, Mars could be on the ascendant up his own Uranus. Caution is advised.

Answer 6

My wifes a Cap and I also am a Tarus. Whenever we argue and I tell her I had enough, you win and I quit, It doesn't stop. She's got to keep kicking a dead horse and then I just walk away and stay out of her sight for a while. Their crazy.

Answer 7

Well ,seeing that Jupiter is interfering with communication energy, I suggest sometime early next week their will be a sock in your life which will be placed in your lover/s mouth/s. Being outgoing as all Taurus the raging bull will gore someone close to your. Money will be an issue and the exchange of it will be given to lawyers.

Answer 8

Stop her before she begins. You can also point out whatever she is worried about to show her it's fine. Also, stop practicing witchcraft! All this capricorn, taurus business can't be good. :o)

Answer 9

Being a Capricorn has nothing to do with it. My husband & I are both Cappys - he worries, I don't. The problem is that she just needs some reassurance -

Answer 10

Be sweet to her and tell her that you can handle everything, not to worry about you. thank her for being so nice, and if things gets really worse, and worse everyday, tell her that you feel not respected and not being a man enough, cause you can handle things on your own.