so i have been going out with this guy for almost 4 months and it was going good until we started gettin ginto little arguments over stupid things..neways the other night one of his friends calls me and leaves me this voicemail that was so mean calling me a "*****" and how i need to shape up and get my act together but the thing is ....his friend has only heard one side of the story and has yet to hear of all the crap i put up with......am i in the wrong for being hurt by this??....should i be mad at my bf for not stopping his friend from calling me??? should i end it??? please help and let me know what you think....i really appreciate it
2007-02-08 19:41:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh and another thing i did tell him about his friend calling me even though his friend threatened that if i told my bf that he called me i would have "problems" with him.......but my bf just seemed to not really care about it and just kept brushing it off like it was nothing......i think i know what to do but i just want a second opinion
2007-02-08 19:56:51 · update #1
You've go nothing to prove to his friend so he is out of it. The thing is that this bf has instigated so much trouble beyond the two of you that this outsider is being abusive. You should tell your bf and if he is not shocked and does not do anything or is responsible, just end it with no doubt. Quick and final. Don't sweat the tears, put him out on the street.
2007-02-08 19:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, communication is the key to any relationship and if people have arguements then it can be a healthy thing. MAking up is always fun!!!
People that say they never had a fight in their life have to be kidding themselves.
You say you only been together 4 months? Well, the 1st 3 months are the "lusty times" when the couple are in lust and getting to know each other.
Then, the little quirks come out. FArting, burping, leaving wet towels on the floor, socks on the floor, not talking if ya don't feel like it, picking at each other...that is normal to happen by 4 months.
Just do what we did....tell each other when you are pissing each other off and resolve it then and there. Don't let it fester.
I know, I been married 11 years now and I got 4 kids too. It can get better, just communicate.
And...tell the friend to rack off, it is none of his damned business!!!
2007-02-08 19:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by caz_v8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok their has to be a particular reason that he is acting petty.So the two of u need to sit down face to face and figure out exactly what the heck is going on. It was wrong for your bf to go to his friend and tell him about yall's relationship problems. His friend was out of line to call u a ***** when he doesn't know everything that is going on. Hun u shouldn't let something as silly as this get u upset. If he wants to act like a little boy, then let him. Only with sum1 who isn't u. I feel u can do so much better.
2007-02-08 19:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by glamorousbitch09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all it's none of the friend's business what happenes between you two. So he should just shut up and you should tell you bf that he should also tell him to mind his own business. I don't think it's a reason to break-up for, but I would talk to him about and try to sort out our difference. If you both see that it won't work out... then there's no other way than to end it. Good luck!
2007-02-08 19:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ale F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him as he is immature..he cld talk to his friends bt his friends shldn't get involve..it's between u two. And yes, he shld have stop his friends from talking to u like that. The way they behave makes them look childish...are they really men? lol!
2007-02-08 19:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his friends treat you like that, then you can imagine what he is saying about you, and if he disrespects you by bad mouthing you...Then honestly don't allow yourself to be treated like that, show some respect for yourself and get rid of him
2007-02-08 19:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's very immature behaviour on the part of his friend. If this action is supported by your boyfriend, I would dump his *** immediately.
2007-02-08 19:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely he is not caring for u much.
2007-02-08 20:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should dump the guy. Although you probably won't
2007-02-08 19:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by lefty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what is right........well you have many choises for the sake of your rel'ship!
2007-02-08 19:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by leila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋