Even when we first met, it would take extraordinary measures to get him aroused (sexy lingerie, oils, mood lighting, music, etc. As he's gotten older, the sex has diminished to once every 3-4 months. I love him dearly, and he has many great qualities, but he's terrible in bed, and hates giving oral. He will usually take a Viagra, then need to perform the act without diversion until he ejaculates. If I try to change positions, suggest something different or slow the pace, he loses his erection. I'm certain that this is both a physical and psychological problem, but he's not willing to work on this, and I'm tired of begging because it makes me feel undesireable and sad. I do not wish to end my marriage, but I can't stand the thought of becoming sexless at my age (I'm 41). I am frequently told by other men that I am beautiful, sexy and fun... I am considering an affair. My husband refuses to see a doctor or counselor, so I am left to deal with this (long, loving talks DO NOT HELP)
2007-02-08 19:26:21 · 3 answers · asked by NYTEVIOLET 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You poor girl, if he wont seek help for this problem it seems very unlikely that things will change. Maybe you could suggest a sex councillor and take him there. You could always look on the www to see if there are other women who have had this problem and get their advise and what they have tried. If all else fails, you might have to cuckold him, (this is where you have different sexual partners and he is celibant, which wont worry him by the sound of it) and you never know you may both get what you want out of it, you great sex with a lover and he being left alone with no sex. Good luck in your search for a solution.
2007-02-08 22:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by markobhave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband too, in uninterested. Won't go to counseling or doctor, so I'm stuck here. I have 2 kids and won't ruin their happy family that we do have. We have been like this for almost 10 years, so what can I say, he likes that we are just "roomies" and is fine with that. I on the other hand, have a very hard time with it, after all it is a natural instinct.
2007-02-10 13:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by The Grand Inquisitor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whatever makes you happy
2007-02-08 22:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋