why am i so scared of my mom finding out that i cut myself?

Question

she's a psychologist, so i know she'd understand and not freak out or anything, and normally i tell her everything, and i know that i should tell her that i cut and ask for help, so why don't i want her to know?

Answer 1

Because you want her to notice you enough to find out on her own without you being forthcoming. You want to earn the attention, not beg for it.

Answer 2

I personally don't understand why people cut themselves. But I won't judge you b/c I haven't done it before and maybe your situation is worse than others. Like little Erica in the "Runaway Love" song. But I do believe there are other ways to relieve pain or stress with out physically hurting yourself. Like running extremely fast until you can't anymore. Screaming when no ones around. Talking to others who you feel comfortable with or just writing about it. I've been writing poetry/rhymes since I was 12 yrs old and I would be completely messed up if it wasn't for that. Just try to solve it on your own and talk to your mom about it when you feel ready.

Answer 3

Because you are probably ashamed and don't want your mom to think less of you. Maybe you aren't ready to deal with the reasons that led you to do this. It also sounds like you and your mother have a pretty good relationship. You need to tell her. She is your mother and would want to know, plus she's a psychologist and will know what to do. Cutting is serious. My cousin used to do this and the more she did it the harder it was for her to stop. Now go tell your mom! She can help you with this and I think once you tell her you'll feel relieved. You'll also see there was no reason to be afraid and you'll realize how much your mom loves you. Good luck to you!

I just read your other questions that you posted and you said you want to stop cutting. You know it's a problem and need to figure out why you like it and how to stop.

Answer 4

My daughter did this. She had always told me everything, too. i only found out when she had surgery for something else and had to reveal it.

You don't know if you are ready to ask for help, but the fact that you are posting here indicates that you are. One thing I learned from my daughter (and her therapist) is that cutting is a completely different dynamic than anything else.

You may not feel you are ready to stop - if that is the case, please - at least - read up on cutting; you are not the only person to resort to it. And, if it makes you feel better, the fact that your mom is a professional is not unusual; she can explain that to you when you are ready.

You are a very strong, STRONG girl; you have recognized the danger of what you are doing, and you have sought insight to it.

Answer 5

i dont know if its like this for you but for me it was an addiction and i couldnt tell because i didnt want to be a freak or to have them love me any less but you need help i waited so long i ended up in a hospital then a psyc ward for several months get help dont carry it out any further i know its hard but you can get through it im sure its even more intimidating with a psychologist for a parent but you have to stop you will eventually hit an arterie or major vein and die i came very close and idid it just like i always did mistakes happen remember that

Answer 6

I went through a time where I cut myself, for about a year. It wasn't to try and kill myself, it was more like relief from depression. I got through it but I never told my Mom until I was passed it all, and like you I tell my Mom mostly everything. But my Mom isnt a psychologist who I could ask for help. I suggest that if you dont feel comfortable talking to your Mom about it go to someone else. If your Mom asks why u dont want to talk to her about it, say its personal and when u feel like its time to tell her u will, she'll understand. I know that when I was cutting myself I didn't really want to have anything to do with my family, its not like they were a part of the reason I started to cut, but still I didnt feel like they should know or that they would be of help because they might be surprised how i felt and say thats no reason to cut urself, and blah, blah, blah. ur mom might wonder what shes doing wrong and u dont want to go through that. like i said try talking to someone else.

Answer 7

Because you want her to be your mother not your psychologist. Maybe you could just tell her this, and ask her to find you someone else you can talk to if you think you need it.
And I agree with the other answer that you may be wanting her to find out for herself and notice the change in you as a mother.

Answer 8

dont listen to the last comment she has no clue what so ever how rude can some people be.
i did it i cut myself for many a year and my mum still doesnt know. i dont do it anymore i did something more drastic and ended up in hospital in the end that made me see things a whole lot better. if you have the sort of relationship that you can trust and tell your mum things then you should. i never had that so i kept a lot of things inside and that was the worst thing i could ever do. please do whats right and only you yourself will know what that is.

Answer 9

Because when you cut, it offers you relief. And you are probably not ready to give that up yet. You know that you would have to stop doing it if you told your mom. It is also something that you control. No one else has control of this but you. You need to stop hun, it's not healthy. Tell your mom and set a plan up with her to help you stop.

Answer 10

Don't cut yourself. Trust me that is not the way to go!
You do need to talk to your mom about this. If you ever told her anything this should be it. You are hurting yourself in more ways than you can possibly imagine. I cut a couple of times and regreted ever doing it.Please talk to your mom.

(Don't listen to Madness)

Answer 11

It's a rule among professionals that they shouldn't treat family members. You need to tell someone, but not necessarily your mom under these circumstances. Tell your counselor at school, or better yet your family doctor.