What is so wrong with wanting to be a home maker?

Question

Everytime I tell some one that when I get married I want to stay home and keep house and raise whatever kids come, they give me an odd look.
Whats so bad with that?
Its how my mom was and how my grandmother was.

I'm touched.
I thought I might get some negative veiws here, but instead I get encouragement!
Thanks all!

Answer 1

I think that homemaking is a lost art. My mother was a stay at home mom, and to this day I'm very thankful. We always had clean sheets on the bed, and well-balanced, hot meal, and there was always someone to help us with homework and discuss our troubles. I believe that most of the problems in our country are the result of "absent parents" and child who are left to their own devices, raising themselves without guidance. I applaud your decision.

Answer 2

Our government decided that if we were not looking after small children, we should be working, that is what the problem is with a lot of family's, once upon a time it was expected of the woman to stay at home and be there for their children coming in from school and to have the dinner ready for when their partner returns home after a hard days work, gone are those days for most family's unless of course you can afford it, these days, the cost of living is so high that people have no choice, other than for both partners to work, family life as we used to know it is slowly disappearing, gone are the traditional sunday lunches that we all used to enjoy with our family's, it is a great shame that we have been turned into a nation like this, the government interfere with two many personal aspects of our lives. I am not attacking any woman that goes to work through choice, that is purely the right of the decision of the individual all i am saying is that we should not be made to feel that we are lazy if we choose to be there for our family.

Answer 3

there is nothing wrong with being a home maker. the problem is that the women's right movement has been twisted to make it that a women is only seen as successful if she has a job, carrier, car, and wears the pants in the house.

men and women are not equal they are totally different. one is not better then the other. both play an important part in society.

Let a women climb mount everest because she "wants" to prove that she can and not because she "needs" to prove to a man that she is equal.

I'm sorry if i ran off the topic. one of th greatest things in life is a mother raising and caring for her family.

again i'm not saying that a man is better then a woman, and that a womens place is the kitchen. I'm saying that everyone plays their part.

i hope i helped.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with it at all. I'm 22, and have a 4 year old daughter and have stayed at home with her since she was born. I love knowing that it was/is me (and my husband of course) who is raising our daughter and not a daycare worker.

I understand that some parents just have no choice in the matter, and that's fine, and then there are the parents who actually don't like staying home and would rather go to work. I just see it like this, it's my child, so it's my responsibility to raise my child, not someone else!

I love knowing that my daughter, at 12 months old, could identify all of the colors, all of the shapes and count to 20 all on her own. I'm proud to know it was me who taught her! She is now 4, just started school and now speaks two languages; so yes, I'm very proud.

I also love knowing that I have a major role in my family life. My husband always knows that he'll have a nice meal to eat, clean clothes to wear, and that when he gets home, he'll have plenty of time to spend with me and our family because nothing else is going on when he gets home since all the work was done while he was at work. I'm saddened by the lives of people that have to rush rush rush. The idea of getting home between 5-6pm, immediately starting dinner, bathing children, get them into bed, doing laundry, cleaning the house, etc and then going to bed myself and waking up and doing it all over again the next day just kills me. I like knowing we have hours and hours of uninterrupted time to spend as a family each and every night!

I love my life, and I'm proud of you for wanting to keep, give and have a more traditional life for your future family. Always be proud of that!

Answer 5

there is absolutly nothing wrong with what you want to do. one of the biggest problems in this country (america) that we have right now is that too many familys belive that more money is more important then having a stay-at-home mom. that is exactly what my family had, and all of the kids ended up fine. these days, too many familys belive that having the lexus, house in suburbia, digital cable etc. is more important than having a mom who is always there. you know what the right thing to do is, you dont have to hear anything from anyone on yahoo! answers to justify what you know is right. a stay- at - home mom is part of a system that has worked for thousands of years, no need to **** with it! it may seem old-fashoned, but it works. no need to fix somthing that works fine!

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong with it. Its wonderful that your husband, house, and kids are more important than a paycheck. Marry a man that feels the same way you do. I personally think kids have the best when they are raised by a loving parent instead of raised by daycare providers.

Answer 7

i'm loving it for 18 years now and my daughter who is 17 wants to do the same. i encourage her as well. its awesome to be able to. those that look down on it are probably doing so for financial reasons. its not easy on one income but we homemakers learn how to budget. my friends all tease me and say i have no job and no life but my hubby and child is my life and running a home is a job in itself. a fun job.

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong with that...i'd love a home maker wife. :)

Answer 9

there is nothing wrong with that....people just don't know what is 'normal' anymore....

Do whatever you, & your partner, think will make you both the happiest.

Answer 10

because it was very unusual to them!