I met my boyfriend on a dating website which caters for everyone including swingers to ‘normal' dating. His profile was not sexual and he seemed genuine in wanting to meet new friends with the possibility of relationship. We have now been dating for 3 months. He couldn’t be more of a guy if he tried. I.e.; Drinks beer (long necks out of the brown bag), farts. Watches TV. Buys bad presents. Can’t put things away etc etc. He is also more of the bogan variety male. He has tatts and piercings, wears a flannel shirt! But I am still paranoid that he is gay. I noticed we don’t kiss much, and he told me he has never been much into kissing. Then the same thing with oral sex. that’s cool some guys just don’t like that. But strike 3 was last nite when I said, 'baby how come you never touch me' and he said, he has never been one for touching down there. So is he gay or what?!!! Or just a lazy, selfish not into that kinda guy? I’ve been reassured it isn’t an issue with MY genitals specifically.
2007-02-08 18:57:10 · 9 answers · asked by goodoziboy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think he has some issues. He could be totally heterosexual but has hang-ups about sex in general. Western society has really screwed-up allot of people, both men and women, when it comes to sex. Why do you think there is so many sex crimes? If the guilt and repression that Western religion puts on people about sex was removed, and everyone had a healthy attitude towards it, there would be little to no sex crimes.
He probably just has some real hang-ups about everything being "dirty" that he is struggling with.
2007-02-10 19:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult to say without meeting him. He sounds pretty butch to me. My guess is probably just selfish or usure about himself...Does he have many guy friends? Do any of them appear outwardly gay? It's possible he's confused about his sexuality and doesn't know what he wants.
Would you still want to be friends with him if he did admit to being gay/bi? If the answer is yes, talk to him about it...Just tell him how you feel and what you suspect, also that you have a right to know for the sake of the relationship. Also tell him that you will still like him as a friend regardless.
2007-02-14 10:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by Matt S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is clear that this person is not for you. You clearly have questions about his emotional stability. My advice is to get out befor you invest too much time. Soundslike a bad situation waiting to happen. I doubt he is gay but he just is not the emotional mate you need. He is not meeting you where you need to be. good luck in finding your mr right.
2007-02-16 15:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by Nan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he needs to see a therapist. My guess would be he was molested as a child. I wouldn't bring that up for fear of scaring him. However, I would tell him to put out, or get out. You don't need a guy who is like that. Move on, there is a whole world of men out there. Good luck.
2007-02-08 20:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kurt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, as a gay man. He's gay. I said the same thing to so many wonderful women (who are now wonderful friends).
2007-02-14 18:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by JPS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he like heaps of butt sex? Offer to do him and then see if he accepts or rejects a Rusty Trombone.
2007-02-16 05:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he might have had a problem in his past.. or he doesnt wont to go to fast in your relationship.. you only been dating 3 months..
2007-02-09 01:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by JOHN F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lazy and Selfish.
If you can live with that, feel free to dive right in.
But I woudn't.
2007-02-08 21:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mario E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever is going on - "NEXT".
2007-02-15 21:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋