Weve been together for almost 12 years my partner and I...about 4 or 5 years ago she didnt want to have sex anymore...she hurt down their, found out she had endometriosis really bad, she had surgery and still doent want to, she scared it will hurt. Now I know some of you are thinking how or even why go without sex for so long, I dont, Im in my prime and not getting any younger, toys are not my thing, I want to have sex dammit. I've been very understanding with her illnesses, she also has fibromialgia. It has been so hard an sooooo frustrating. I've been true blue dont want nobody else, but damn what do I do? am I nuts?
2007-02-08 18:43:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your understanding and patience is admirable, but I've never heard of either endometriosis or fibromyaligia causing so much pain that one cannot stand to have sex. (for 5 years!) Maybe she has other other sexual issues? You really need to talk and get to what might be the real issue, here. You should not have to be a martyr or saint (or live like one). Good luck.
2007-02-14 08:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient (easier said than done), endometriosis is no joke and the scarring associated with the surgery, both physically and mentally, is no joke. Talk with your partner, let her know how you are feeling, I believe something can be worked out. Personally I have not been subjected to the female problems you mention, but my sister has had, after 2 surgeries, a full hysterectomy and she had "all of the problems" associated with the sexual part of it. So patience will pay off, God Bless.
2007-02-16 05:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex. If shes afraid of the pain its understandable, but sit down wit her and talk 2 her about yer feelings, communication is the best thing for all relationships youd be surprised. Maybe you 2 can find another release that still envolve only you 2. But going out and cheating will only make things worse because of the hurt. Physical scars and wounds will heal and be forgotten but ya damage the heart and it will NEVER go away. Try 2 works sumthing through. You are apparently very understanding of her situation now its time she is understanding of yours.
2007-02-09 05:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by wickedredneckclown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well honey i could understand your fustration but u have to understand this is something she is goin to stand firm on. And u will have to find ways and means around it... maybe getting some help doctor wise would or should i say should help. but u can try oral sex and not pushing for sex at all. jerking off in fornt of her and being satisfied with that for now. If u love her u will be paitent but in the mean time show her although she is goin through her little crisis u can wait........ get her to give u heads. after a while u can gently finger her. then as soon as yuh can say oh girl u all will be having sex again. but she needs to be comfortable physically and mentally with penetration... communication is the key as well. good luck
2007-02-14 13:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by bajegirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, sometimes a romatic dinner and wine (lots of wine), and a woman can be talked into doing anything. Just try to get her to let you lick her clit. And even if she can't have sex, she should be willing to go down on you.
2007-02-09 02:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by wicca chicka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find another.....Sex is the basic needs of a human according to Maslows Hierarchy of needs..... A true love is sacrificing but a need is not to be sacrificed.
2007-02-09 02:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by maria virginia de la aguanta ha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats LOVE! Hell its a couple of day or weeks and Im going crazy...I love to be intimate with my girlfriend. Thats what you need to explain to her. That you love her and that the very essence of her makes you need her. Tell her that you cant continue like this...You have needs too....Best of Luck.
2007-02-14 23:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by ...J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, my hats off to you! you been controling your raging hormones for sometime now! damm! honestly, sometimes giving your other half "pleasure" is pleasure itself. step by step. goodluck!
2007-02-09 03:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by as08ri 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-15 22:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by TZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋