...another female friend. Why can't we just love whomever we want whenever we want? I hate society.
2007-02-08 18:26:41 · 23 answers · asked by Derrick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
...another female friend. Why can't we just love whomever we want whenever we want? I hate society. EDIT: the other friend is a lifelong friend. The type of person you would have dated if you were both single at the same time but just never happened to be. Why does society and the social norm say 1 to 1 and carry such stigmas as mormonisms or cheating. And believe me, that I am "in love" with another does in no way depreciate the value of the love I have for my wife. The vows that you speak of are society's message speaking through you. Same as the hurt you describe. In terms of history, monogamy has only been around for a few thousand years but the human race has been around for much longer....
2007-02-08 18:53:53 · update #1
who told you to get married? seems like you are not ready for that... and by why cant we love whomevr we want, what do you mean? love her as be with her or just love her as a friend? if its the second one then I dont thnk there is a problem as long as you dont cheat on your wife, but if you mean to be more than just friends thenits not right - would you want your wife to be the same with another man? or it would upset you? does she love some other man the way you love this other girl? I dont really know what you mean .
2007-02-08 18:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Scorpio Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If thats how you feel tell your wife, I'm sure she wont be feeling the same way about you when you do, but she'll appreciate the honesty. What's wrong is if you carry through with anything sexually, you never want to cheat on someone, ever, it's really better to break of the current relationship that your in so that you can continue another. Your not single, so there is alot that can go wrong. You can love whoever you want whenever you want, but its what you do about it that counts. Be honest with yourself and your partner and things will turn out for the better.
2007-02-12 00:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive got a couple of things or questions i need to ask you...why did you get married? Do you understand what it means? the word marriage...? Also im sure if it was her who was interested in someone else I seriously think you would be preaching about love this and love that....I think that maybe you would be preaching the evils of love outside of the marriage and I assume you would be very angry about alot of things especially the fact that she could even look at anyone besides you. So I do think that you should think about all that before you start looking for love anywhere else besides your back yard? Besides you will certainly lose everything your wife, and your new love truely dear you will lose I guarantee it....its called Kharma and you do seem like your in deep for a kharma whipping and you will have deserved it to....sorry good luck....Angel
2007-02-09 02:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are. I'll bet you think you are bragging rather than betraying your wife. You have the right to do as you please but I'll bet your lying to your wife. You shouldn't have made a vow to one woman. No one twisted your arm to get married. Tell your wife the truth and then you can both operate at the same level. Maybe she would like a bf. Most men can't handle two women anyway. Level the playing field and let the games begin.
2007-02-09 02:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by towanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's put the shoe on the other foot. Your wife suddenly finds herself "in love" with a male friend. Did she not make a commitment to you? Aren't we supposed to honor our commitments? How do you know that once to get to an intimate level with your "friend" that you will still like her? This is what is supposed to differentiate us from other lesser animals. Choice.
You can love whomever you want, whenever you want. It's called divorce. Don't mess over what I hope is actually your best friend(hopefully wife) over and actual acquaintance.
Good luck
2007-02-09 02:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by Curious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i asked a question like this before. not about me, but the topic in general. Is it possible to LOVE more than one person (besides family,children etc) I personally think it is. I am a loving person by nature, and care too much for people at times, and I don't give up or let go easy, especially when we remain friends. I am there for them. so I' say it's possible to be madly in love with your spouse but still have strong loving feelings for another person..too bad society...and well your spouse might disagree :)
2007-02-09 02:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Angeleyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what true love is. There's a common love, lust, attraction, compatability, friendship, companionship, etc. But true love between two people can't and won't be compromised. If you truely loved your wife you would be satisfied and complete and wouldn't feel compelled to seek out another woman, and you wouldn't risk hurting her or damaging your relationship by dipping into an affair with another woman. You may think you "love" your wife but you obviously don't love her enough.
2007-02-09 02:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do that. Here comes the qualifier - As long as both your wife and the other female you are interested in know you want them both. It's not fair to expect your partner(s) to be faithful to you if you are interested in multiple partners. If you are all in agreement that what you desire is acceptable to them as well... Then, great.
Good Luck
Livia-
2007-02-09 02:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by livia_orknot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello........if you are married than freaken leave the other people alone.......if you wont to have a g/f then leave your wife she desirves more than that....what about your vowes what did you mean when you said all that to your wifes eyes and then you go and treat her like that.....you freaked dog.....you lick dogs balls....you lay down with dogs and do not desirve to have a lady ....go get the balls of men that you desirve,.
2007-02-09 02:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same situation as u but as the part as the female friend... but dun hate the society coz we r brought up by the same thinking... ask urself whether u have the same thoughts b4 u meet ur female friend??? they r not the ones living ur life... but u r the one living ur own life... i thought i wont be in this situation but in the end i ended up in this situation n trying get out but coz of love for him makes me hard to let go...
* agree with FRIDAY... *
do what u like... but then dun hurt their feelings... let them know the truth b4 they find out by themselves... n let them think whether they wanna be with u rather than make them think u r the only one for them...
my fren once told me this: fate is destined, it's whether u can accept it or not...
love is blind n love makes u confused at times... but then be urself... think carefully... dun hurt them is the most impt thing to do... u want to choose but at the same time let them have a chance to choose too...
take care n hope all things goes well for u...
2007-02-13 02:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by -LOST- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋