Why most of the men afraid of smart women and their Intelligence & confidence?

Question

Previous generations probably preferred a smart woman - not just book smart, but also street smart. But truth be told - many men did not want an overly smart woman, after all, it would be too hard to tame and control her. So, intelligence is needed, but in small quantities.
( let me know if you agree or not?)

Answer 1

Nah! I don't agree!
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My girlfriend has an IQ of 190|

Yes, that is right - an IQ of 190|


But she is a paradox||

She has the social development of a twelve year old|

Chronologically, she is 28 years old|


It has *completely* astonished me the intelligence that has come out of her at times|

However, when she is in a group of people, what she comes out with when she tries to interact with them is nerdy beyond imagination| ("shhhh, don't say that, people are laughing at you")|

It is almost like she was born yesterday|


But in other situations, she is very very clever|

But I am not intidmidated because I can field and parry what she tries to pull|

It is almost like Kung Fu, but I am the master|

We fight like cats and dogs sometimes|


But I love her though, she is completely unique|




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Answer 2

I agree with your generalization about MOST men being afraid.

I doubt previous generations preferred a smart woman. After all, a smart woman was a woman who knew how to wash the dishes, take care of the kids, and SERVE his man once he got home by leaving his slippers by the side of the sofa (check your history, especially the educational courses DESIGNED to be a good wife).

Most men are afraid of smart women precisely because they know they can't "tame" the woman. We're shifting from a male-dominant model of business into an Equal-Position model.

But you have to understand: traditions, especially in this country, are SOOOOO deeply rooted that it's very difficult to make quick changes. This will be an extremely low process.

Also, women seemingly taking advantage of this "power" don't give a clear perception for men to truly understand feminist beliefs.

As long as the intitution of marriage survives, then nothing will change. Marriage as an institution has to die before there is any complete change.

That's what I believe. But I'm a male feminist, what do I know, right?

Answer 3

I don't think an intelligent enough man is afraid of an intellligent woman. In fact, I think that's what intelligent and well adjusted men would prefer.

Men who aren't as confident and/or intelligent, though, often do feel uncomfortable or threatened by a very intelligent woman.

One thing, though: Very often when women are very, very, outwardly confident and talk about how intelligent or accomplished they are it isn't that they intimidate men. Its just that men don't find too much over-flowing confidence appealing; and men often don't find a certain type of "street smart" appealing either.

I really think men are just looking for someone they find attractive and who is nice for the most part. I'm sure some don't like smart women, but that not very desirable either.

Answer 4

"Previous generations probably preferred a smart woman - not just book smart, but also street smart. But truth be told - many men did not want an overly smart woman, after all, it would be too hard to tame and control her..."

EVER HEARD OF A LITTLE PLAY BY SHAKESPEARE CALLED "THE TAMING OF THE SHREW"? Men in Patriarchial have always felt threatned; this is nothing new.

"So, intelligence is needed, but in small quantities..."

I'm sure I don't understand what you mean.

During the Nazi occupation of Poland Hitler is quoted as saying something to the effect of "the Poles should be educated only so much as is absolutely necessary for them not to be run down by our [German] automobiles" - I sure hope that was JUST A TYPO on your part - otherwise, the image of Adolf Hitler and the Enslavement of Poland immediately springs to mind...do you wish us to live in such a dictatorship?

EDIT:
"Happy Bullet" (posing as "BabaYaga') wrote:
"Intelligent people never cooperate with anyone. Why? Because immediate disregard for other people's needs or opinions goes hand in hand with intelligence. That's why."

IGNORANCE IS BLISS: HE DOESN'T REALISE THAT "...immediate [I will assume he means 'complete'] disregard for other people's needs and opinions..." ARE HALLMARKS OF SOCIOPATHOLOGY, EXTREME NARCISSISM AND ABOUT 15 DIFFERENT PERSONALITY DISORDERS! HAHA...LOL! Is Happy Bullet the best that the male chauvinist pigs on this forum have to offer??? MY DAUGHTER'S GUINEA PIG IS MORE "INTELLIGENT".

Answer 5

Maybe you are hanging out in the wrong circles. I think a lot of guys appreciate a smart woman -- as long as they don't have to hear about it.

Think about it. As a modern woman, if you had the chance to marry a totally brainiac guy, but you had to hear over and over and over about how smart he is, and he belittled you for being "stupid", would you do it?

I think both men and women would like to reap the benefits of an intelligent partner, as long as that partner has good basic social skills, and is willing to listen to other people's ideas.

That's one problem with "smart" people, you know. They are *always* right -- even when they are wrong, they know they are right. It's exhausting! And I say that as a smart woman who used to be always right.

I married a very intelligent man who taught me the benefits of being modest -- by example! (-: Now I'm right only about 80 percent of the time. Still learning, I guess (-:.

Answer 6

Only men who are intelligent, smart and confident wouldn't feel intimidated. Men who are conservative, insecure, has low self-esteem would only feel afraid that a woman who is better than he is will upstage him and make him look stupid. Many of those men exist, and only time will change them, like evolution. Soon when more of them get used to seeing confident and smart women everywhere they will start to tell themselves that they have to wake up and start improving themselves if they hope to catch up with the times and of course, to have those women be interested in them because everyone loves an intelligent woman, who wouldn't unless you have self-esteem issues if so refer to beginning of my answer.

Answer 7

Men are only afraid of smart women when they are insecure with themselves. I don't think men necessarily want to tame and control women. I think they like to be with women they perceive as less intelligent than them because it makes them feel better about themselves. Men like to teach women about things (cars, wine, sports, politics, etc). When they think they know more than the woman it feeds their egos and makes them feel worthy. Men loved to be adored and looked up to, but they dislike feeling inferior. However, I do believe there are men that really do like smart women....I married one.

Answer 8

Exactly, because being able to tame and control someone is directly proportional to how intelligent they are and that is the only factor involved.

Dumb people with (for example) a bigoted mindset, that happen to be against what you want them to do, are EXTREMELY easy to control, as your argument suggests.

Intelligent people never cooperate with anyone. Why? Because immediate disregard for other people's needs or opinions goes hand in hand with intelligence. That's why.

Yep. Look at this recent advertisement where the intelligent woman is made to look bad while the dumb one looks good:

http://video.google.com.au/videoplay?docid=-2528131686788341820&q=wii+is+better+than+ps3

We have proof that the fat, loudmouthed, domineering one is smart simply because she is loudmouthed and domineering!

.. don't we?

Answer 9

I agree with you lollipop. Most men feel threatened by an intelligent and strong woman. Most men prefer women that they can control. If the woman is strong and smart, the man would feel like a beta male.

Answer 10

I have found that men seem to select women of less intelligence and less confidence. They want a woman that they can control and they want her to be more submissive. It's take a confident man to have a relationship with an intelligent woman that can stand her ground.

Answer 11

Not! I think most intelligent men want a woman they can fully share their lives with, and there's no need to control anyone you can reason with.