She and I used to be inseparable. But then once she had her first boyfriend she always used to ditch me. Even through all the drama she went through, I was there for her. I used to rush over to her house when ever she needed me and I tried helping her stop drinking, I've known her since sixth grade(we're now sophomores in h.s.)I take partial blame on our problems. But near my birthday we went to disneyland and she treated me like crap. She completely ignored me. Didnt talk to me or look at me. So I decided this wasnt the friend I wanted after all. So I stopped talking to her and then she called me and I was nice enough to hear her problems and give her advice but when I wanted to tell her my problems she completely ignored me. I never wanted to lose her as a friend, but I just couldnt take the drama and I stopped talking to her. Did I do the right thing?
besides that she used to drink and smoke and was trying to get me into it, but I refused.Am I being a b**** in not talking to her?
2007-02-08 18:00:58 · 10 answers · asked by Diana_Is_Amazing 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You did the right thing. You dont deserve selfish friends because friendship is a 2 way communication street just like all relationships. You did yourself a favor and you shouldnt regret it. If she felt bad by now she would try to make amends but she didnt so just move on. In life we need to remove the stumbling stones from our path to get on and you did just that.
2007-02-08 18:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not. It sounds like you're hurt and confused.
Communicate your feelings to her. Let her know that you feel that she's been neglecting you. It sounds like you have a pretty long history together. You probably have a strong enough relationship to be able to speak truthfully and honestly to her about this issue. Maybe she doesn't realize what she's doing to you. Tell her you don't want to lose her as a friend but that this is getting exhausting. Plus, you never know what she's thinking....she may be thinking that you're abandoning her. That's why communication is important.
If she can't or won't work with you to fix this problem, then perhaps it's time to move on. :-(
Good luck to you!!
2007-02-09 02:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by Amy K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not the big B. It sounds like you have really tried to be a good friend, but she it not reciprocating. I believe in some relationships there is a time to move on. I would suggest any further contact be polite but brief. Find people who will not ditch you, treat you like crap, or dump all their problems on you. Friendship needs to be a two way street.
2007-02-09 02:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by C G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though this friend was not a positive influence in your life. She has habits which you do not seem to agree with and do not share and tried to force those on you. Also, although you heard her issues and complaints she did not do the same for you. This does not reflect a mutual relationship.
Although you may have shared a great friendship it seems as though now you both have different expectations.
It is your choice whether or not to speak to your friend now, however, until her actions begin to change do not expect the mutual friendship you are seeking.
2007-02-09 02:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by pinkflamingo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a best friend since 5th grade who used to do this type of crap to me until we both graduated.
I went into the navy, he went into the army.
I moved back to the same city and caught up with him after 7 years...he hadn't changed, I had.
we hung out a few times, he was getting married, I just didn't show up to his wedding and haven't thought about him for 8 years. I don't take that crap.
You shouldn't either. Real friends don't do that.
2007-02-09 02:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by moabmusher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships should be give and take. It sounds like she just takes. With just the information you've given I think you are probably better of without her. I know it's hard to let go of friendships though. If you really want to give it another chance I would tell her how you feel and see how she responds.
Good luck!
2007-02-09 03:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a friendship, it's a symbiosis. She was just using you and I guess you liked to be used, till now.
In future she'll betray you and hurt your feelings much more than now, because she loves only herself.
Instead of not talking to her, tell her everything strait to her face. Quietly, but firmly and then go away.
You'll find real friends, just build your self-confidence, dignity and self-respect.
2007-02-09 13:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong it was time to move on, she actually ended the friendship not you, trying to hang on will be unhealthy for you.
2007-02-09 02:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a friendship cant be one sided you did the right thing
2007-02-09 02:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by bella_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... call her right now and apologize.
2007-02-09 02:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋