When I was talking to my ex-girlfriend today… we got into some kind of little argument—and she started to name girls that I cheater on her with. Then she herself incriminated her own statements—she said that she had a boyfriend but that she didn’t know if he was still with her at the time when she was still with me. So I pointed out to her that she too cheated on me. So what is she talking about me cheating with her on with all those girls when she in fact cheated on me. She tells me this especially when I didn’t know about it until now that we are broken up. Why are we arguing like this?
2007-02-08 17:55:39 · 11 answers · asked by Daniel W 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
It's because she hurts and she wants you to hurt as well. Chances are she never had another boyfriend when she was with you. She just wants you to think she did so you'll know what it feels like to be cheated on. Make sense?
2007-02-08 18:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by AileneWright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier to let the truth out after your broken up. There is really nothing to explain
At this point, the relationship is over, and the person owes you no explanation.
Now they my feel you owe them one for the things you did, but you owe them nothing either.
Once your broken up that is it.......What's done its done
If you want to get back together forget the past and start new.
The most important thing in a relationship is trust you have to trust each other.
2007-02-09 13:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reminds me of a song... two people meet in a bar and decide to go to a hotel to... sleep. And as they arrive she says "I've never done this kind of thing before... have you? And he replies "Yes I have but only a time or two..."
Since when do you think you are going to be able to equalize and relate comparatively with a girl? Making her feel guilty more than she already does to justify your actions? And who taught you to feel that you or she doesn't have a right to happiness and pleasure? So you do anyway and she does anyways. And then you use it as a "handle" over which you make yourself feel equal or better?
2007-02-08 18:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not any longer and that i do no longer think of you have been naive to think of he does no longer cheat. once you get into any variety of severe relationship, whether that is long distance or no longer you do no longer assume that individual to cheat on you. what variety of relationship might that be? So while you're naive because of the fact of that then we are all naive. She's hardly anticipating him or asking him to abide via her ideals to attend is she? He knew how she felt approximately waiting and nevertheless went right into a relationship together with her. in case you do no longer comprehend that or choose to be in the variety of relationship then you rather don't get into one. till you compelled him right into a relationship with you it makes honestly no experience to assert she's anticipating him to abide via her critiques or ideals. If all people is immature that is him. i think of a few persons are merely utilising this question as an excuse to precise their perspectives approximately waiting till finally marriage..... and that i think of that is sweet for you in looking a guy who's on the comparable point as you're.
2016-11-02 23:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you wants to take responsibility for what you have done and you each want to blame the other person.
Two wrongs do not make a right and you should each correct your own behaviour before trying to fix someone elses.
2007-02-08 18:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by John B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, that is quite common actually. When someone has cheated and is denial or can't face up to it, they tend to project their feelings of guilt onto someone else, and focus all their attention on that person's behaviour/antics instead of their own. I'm glad you pointed this out to your gf, I think she needs to be aware of her own thoughts and actions, before accusing people around her.
HTH : )
2007-02-08 18:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to learn the meaning of 'commitment'.
There are many more worthwhile things to occupy yourself with than such petty concerns.
2007-02-08 18:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...you're having these stupid arguments because you haven't MOVED ON! Although, I can see why...you two so richly deserve each other.
2007-02-08 18:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, why are you if you have broken up? Forget about it and get along.
2007-02-08 18:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by Traveller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... because you were cheating on eachother?
2007-02-08 17:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by Jack S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋