I'm 14 and...?

Question

I want to have a baby really bad! I don't want to have sex but I want a baby. I've always had a knack for kids and when I was 9, I wanted 10 kids.

I want to experience pregnancy soo bad, the babyshowers, decorating the baby room, changing diapers

am I weird??

Answer 1

Please do yurself a favor, and carefully read the following:

Teen Pregnancy :
- Mothers Too Soon
- A Global Tragedy
- Facing the Challenges of Teen Motherhood
- Help and Protection for Young Ones
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/10/8/article_01.htm

Your desires & reality are totally out of harmony with each other right now!

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Answer 2

no, your not weird, just ignorant. A baby is A LOT more than babyshowers, decorating and diapers.

You need to be financially stable. A child costs a lot of money. A LOT. I have two daughters and i cant even tell you how much i spend on diapers, formula, baby food, clothes, etc.

Babys are fun and all but I dont think you are responsible enough at 14. Being a parent requires a lot of sacrifice and it changes your life forever. A baby will also grow up so you say you love babies and kids, but that baby will grow to a toddler, older kid, teenager then adult. Are you willing to have that responsibilty your whole life? Also consider the fact that you are still in school. Who will take care of the baby? Where will you and your baby live? Who will pay for its food and diapers and other necessities? Who will pay for hospital bills or insurance? Are you emotionally ready? I doubt it.

I think at 14 maybe you should be looking more into getting a puppy rather than having a baby.

Answer 3

ok, 1st of all u should be married.... then have a baby..
but, just tell me how u are gonna decorate a baby room? you're not even old enough to work at mickey d's to get money to decorate anything???
and wanting 10 kids when u were 9.... that's because u are still a kid ur self.
at 14, your only experience should be ur imagination.
try to find some ppl in ur area that needs a babysitter.
i do however know how u feel as i was the same way, but no that i have one of my own, things are alot different.
just say that ur baby gets sick, ur not old enough to drive, how would you get him/her 2 a doc.
plz think!!!

Answer 4

Not necessarily weird but you are WAY too young. You probably hear that all the time but seriously, I have a 14 year old sister and I would flip if she got pregnant. You can't get a job at 14 and she is still in school meaning you are still in school! && Your parents would be the ones raising the kids because I'm POSITIVE you don't live on your own!! So you need to think twice, a kid is not a doll you can have for a couple years and then just throw in the toy box. It's another living human being that you will raise for the rest of your life. If the only reason you want to have a kid is so you can decorate the room and do all that girly stuff, go to baby showers and buy stuff for THEM, babysit, decorate your own room, get a dog. SOMETHING! But PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not get pregnant!!!!!

Answer 5

I don't think it's weird. I started really wanting children when I was about 16 or so. You just have to realize that you're not emotionally or financially ready for a baby yet and try and be patient until a time when you could really devote yourself to raising a child. Many girls get pregnant and give birth while still in high school, but it can be extremely difficult, depending on available support systems. In the end, you have to think about what's best for the baby.

~21 and still childless

Answer 6

What you've described are fairly normal thoughts going through a young teens head, just keep them as that, thoughts.........the reality is not so perfect. I knew a young girl, when I was working with schools, who got pregnant at 14, was too scared to tell her parents so kept it a secret. She worn slightly bigger sweatshirts to so, and just convinced everyone she was putting on a bit of weight. She didn't see a doctor all the way through the pregnancy. She continued to attend school til the day she had her baby.
Once she realised that she was in labour she rang her aunt, still too scared to tell her mum! Thankfully the aunt took her to the hospital and then told her parents. Both her and her baby were fortunately ok, and her parents came to accept the baby. She struggled to look after her child, no job, not finished school, no prospect of college, no exams. No nights out with her friends, nights of looking after her little one. She was a very sensible girl, she knew that she'd need a good job to be able to bring up her child, so she arranged to come back to school 3 days a week. Her mum looked after the baby for that time. The rest of the time he was her total responsibility. She learnt a very hard lesson in life. Too young.

Answer 7

ill tell you now i am 21 and had a baby 2 months ago and if you hhave a dog and think its as easy as minding thaat think muliplying that by 1000 it s not about baby showers and decorating room and changing nappies
your baby relies on you for everything its like not about you anymore ever move you make the baby has to go with you, you have hardly any night time sleep, washing bottles, changing nappies ,ou need money your making a big mistake and at your age you will have no life just have fun with your friends and enjoy it you have plenty of time to have a baby

Answer 8

You want to PLAY dollies. You don't want a REAL baby, you couldn't handle a REAL baby. Having a baby isn't about the baby showers, or the baby's room It's about staying up 3 nights in a row with about a half hour of sleep walking a path in the hall carpet and rocking so much there are treadmarks on the floor, because that "dolly" has the measles and a fever, can't get comfortable and is cranky. It's about being awakened in the middle of the night to a toddler screaming bloody murder from night terrors, it's about slidding into a pair of flip flops and to hell with hair and makeup because you're on your way to the emergency room because the baby is totally lethargic and you can't for the life of yourself figure out what is wrong, only that she isn't behaving like her "normal" self...she just "lays there". It's about 2 am feedings, and constant crankiness because the baby is teething and colic and ear infections, strep throat, whooping cough/the croup. It's about projectile vomiting an entire bottle of milk. It's waking up to an infant heart monitor going off in the middle of the night and seeing your precious turing blue.
Are you weird? No...just very young and seeing the world through "rose colored glasses". You don't want a baby, you want a dolly.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with that. It is time to start baby sitting regularly and doing volonteer work with the local hospital as a "candy striper".
Find out if there is a Mommy group near your home and volonteer as an assistant. Let them know you want to know what is involved and many mothers will be happy to involve you, just for the helping hand.
You will probably make a great mom when it comes your time. Just wait until it is your time.

Answer 10

oh god honey no you dont. stick with dolls. when they bug you with thier crying you can put them in a box and forget about them.

you DO NOT want to experiance pregnancy at such a young age. you forgot about the back pain, the peeing every 10 minutes, how annoying it is when the baby decides to kick your ribs, or stomach, the counting 10 kicks everyday , everybody grabbing your stomach,including strangers, the first few hours of labor..ya know you have to wait until your 4 cm dialated before you can have an epidural....contractions suck. THEN the annoying nurses, whom are rude, gross food, everybody touching your boobs to try to "teach" you how to breastfeed, nurses shoving needles in your arms, you cant go pee by yourself, then when you take the baby home,

you have to wake up every 30 minutes to 2 hours, on top of that you may have a baby with colic, and that added with the fact that your tired and just want to sleep, and having your parents ***** at you for something you did. its very stressful. not all happy stepford wives. nobody told you the negative side of pregnancy did they?
not only that, who is going to pay for the baby? dont expect to ever move out! believe me, babysitting a one year old who screams for every little reason when he doesnt get his way will be more then enough, and you wont want a baby for a while anymore. and btw changing diapers really isnt fun. its messy,and stinky. just babysit, you cant put a real baby aside for a little bit while you go out with your friends. its a 24/7 job until the child is at LEAST 5, and then you only get 5 hours of you time...... besides. the baby doesnt stay a baby forever. it grows up. its a lifelong commitment