Can I start an affair now since my wife cheated wrote a loveletter to her classmate after 14 years of marriage

Answer 1

First of all, You should know the reason why she did so. Its only normal that people think of their childhood love over and over again. Thats because people start to recognise things that makes them feel good when we grow. The first thing that made us realise we have some one or something will always be in our memory atleast in the back of it. When our life is not going the way we want or if the exitement is lost, then we start looking out for things that will keep us happy exited about life. After all, we just have one life.

1. So, you have to answer yourself, have you both been adventurous? Did you both have a interesting life or routine one?
2. Does she not get something from you that she always asks for? Going out, treating her in a particular way. The very thing that made her write a letter is something that she is not getting now but she used to with her school mate. May be that was the first experience of that kind so she just remembered and wrote a lletter.
3. Did you both have a frank talk about why she did it? Don't keep asking her but tell her how much you felt when you came to know and the feelings like you don't have anyone for yourself. She will understand it. Then ask her what made her write that letter. Before that promise her that you won't trouble her for being honest and keep up with that.

4. Then analyse if what she says makes sense. It will nto make sense immediately but take time and talk to her once you realise. Give her that thing or both of yourself that made her do that and bring up the exitement in life.

Man, if one hits does not mean that you have to hit back. Remember, you get life once and make it memorable and make it such that you will feel happy at the end of your life to have lived the life with the tolerance. Every body can get anger and go for fight and war, but the strongest ones are petient enough to know the reasons and love and get love. After all, when she knows how you felt and how lonely you were, she will realize her mistake and repent for it if you loved each other for all these years and treated each other nice.

Man its going to be valentinse day and give the love that she needs and get that one. Go for a tour with her for atleast 7 days and know what she missed and communicate what you missed and how you can spice up the life.

Answer 2

First, writing a loveletter is something warranting investigation, not cheating. Loveletters are not sex, either. Even if she had had sex, as much as I understand your urge to cheat since I'm a guy, I think this would be a stupid reason to cheat if there were ever good ones. Relax and talk to her. Cannot do that? Fine, relax and talk to her about divorce then if there's no other way.

Answer 3

Writing a loveletter to a classmate is not cheating, I am sorry. You cannot start an affair, however badly u may need it with this pretex. Think of something more substantial !!!!

Answer 4

Just writing a letter to an old flame isn't the equivalent to having an affair. Your just looking for an excuse to justify an action that you must want. You don't need an excuse if you want to cheat. Thats a choice.

You haven't indiacted why would she be writing a letter to an old classmate in the first place, so it would seem to me that there are other issues here. Maybe you should spend sometime figuring out what that is. You've invested 14 years at this point so why not figure out the what the issue are, then if nothing is salvageable both of you can move on with a clear conscience.

Answer 5

NO NO NO !!! 2 wrongs do NOT make a right..... If you are wanting to move on then move on..... You will find that getting back at her will only back fire and YOU will pay the price.... I know this for a fact !!!!!! So make sure the marriage is over , then move on, or make the marriage work...... 1 thing at a time........ God bless

Answer 6

Um no you can't start an affair just in order for revenge but you can ask her to leave and keep your dignity in tact. As much as it hurts payback isn't a good thing you are just sinking to her level. I think you have some serious talking to do.Good luck.

Answer 7

Instead of starting an affair, how about starting a conversation with her? Find out the who, what, why and then go from there. Good luck and one more thing, there is NEVER a good reason to cheat on someone. Be the better man and walk away before letting yourself fall to that level.

Answer 8

An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.

It seems that you are looking for an excuse to cheat on your wife. A love letter does not constitute an affair. Maybe she is looking for some emotional intimacy she is not getting from you. Also, how do you know she wrote this love letter? Did you read her mail? Did she tell you? I think your marriage has worse problems than a love letter if you are willing to cheat on your wife for that. I think you should talk to her and find out what happened, if you even want to resolve the problem. If you were willing to cheat on her at all it sounds like there are some serious issues there.

Answer 9

If you really want to start an affair, why not talk to your wife about it. It seems you are both fighting your natural instincts against monogamy. Talk to each other about your desires for sending loveletters to others and having affairs, etc. Maybe you will discover the underlying issues and work to better them.

Answer 10

No, but you can write a loveletter to your classmate if you think
it will make things better...
Writing a loveletter is not quite over the line yet....

Answer 11

If "tit for tat" was always a solution you would not have seen a single human surviving.Dont look for an opportunity just because she did...instead talk to her frankly and ask her what she wants to do.Having another affair is not the solution .It will be like ....Aasman se gire khajur me atke".There are so many people who need your love and support...live for them.