First of all I'm 13 and my brother is 11. He forgets to turn in his homework a lot or do the work good. Its like his brain doesn't function and he forgets. He still gets A's.
Its also a big fight when he forgets something (almost everyday!) And my mom gets really upset. She yells and treatns to to take away computer time if he doesn't turn it in. It affects all of us,becasue she's really agitated. We also help him for like hours and then he doesn't even turn it in sometimes.I try and help the most I can. When she works (4 nights a week) I stay home and cook, help carlos with homework, and do my homework. Its VERY stressful because there is so mich to do. She gets stressed out going to work because she knows how my brother is like.I just want to know how to get her less stressed about my brother. When ever I talk about it to him, he's like "okay I will tomorrow" about h/w or talking to the teacher. He never does. And doesn't really care unless mom gets in his busness.
HELP
2007-02-08 16:51:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
When I talk to him, he gets are rude and doesn't listen at all.
2007-02-08 17:00:50 · update #1
Its not like he doesn;t want to do the work or can't. Or even trys to get attantion. He justs forgets. He doesn't have ADD. And my mom doesn't have a prblem and doesn't not work a lot. You call wokring a lot 3 nights a week from 3:30-9?
2007-02-09 08:19:11 · update #2
Well if you go to the same school then try to talk to his teachers or make sure he has all homework in his bag and turns it in it may not be that he is forgetting but that in reality either he is really bored since he is smart if he is making A's or that he cant keep up but then he wouldnt have good grades the nights that your mom works have him sit at the table and cant leave until he finishes all homework and then go over to look for mistakes and then have it go in the backpack get strict with him talk to him about why he is this way to see how to make it better or keep to yourself those are really the options i know its frustrating but thats life and you either get tough or forget about it so try those things and good luck hun
2007-02-08 16:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by sexy b 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like your Mom is really overwhelmed. She has parenting problems beyond what you can cure. Maybe your best bet is to go to a school counselor if you two are in the same school.
1) Stop helping your brother. Your Mom needs to stop helping your brother. If she is doing his homework for him, then your teacher doesn't know what he hasn't learned. The reason to go to school is to learn, not to turn in homework.
2) It sounds as if your brother has ADD or some other issues. He's going to have to fail to learn that he must be responsible.
3) Tell your Mom that your first priority is for your own homework. You will cook, do your homework, and check on what your brother is up to but you can no longer help with homework.
4) Your brother obviously enjoys watching your mother react. It's a free show.
5) Beg your mother to set up a teacher conference that includes you and your brother. If she won't tell the teacher what's up, you should do so.
2007-02-09 11:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im not sure what you can do to get her less stressed but this sounds to me like one of those cases where the child plays mommy to her younger siblings because the mother is to buisy and so fourth or just does not want to deal with being a mom.
My next door neighbors daughter just moved in with him and she is 15, he had nto seen her since the age of like 4 and a few weeks ago he got a call from her mom saying she was gone so he helped look for her and he found out she had 3 younger siblings who she did everything for because her mom worked and when she got home she did not want to deal with the kids so basically my neighbors daughter was the mom. He offered to let her live with him and she took him right up on it but he found out she was very depressed,just last week she was in the hospital for cutting herself and now shes is on anti depresents. He also found out she did drugs and rarely went to school because she was to buisy playing mommy to her siblings who were ages 3-10.
I think maybe your mom needs to go to social services and get some help. You should not have to deal with yoru siblings so much at your age.
2007-02-09 02:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have been through alot with my boy whom is 12 now he has autism and the counselors have worked on teaching me different ways to deal with things that go on one of the things they want to do is a reward system if your mom will help out and maybe yall could get a calender and get stickers maybe do a week and if he does well he can do whatever maybe that would help the change, and maybe that would help him look forward to something..sometimes motivating just really helps
2007-02-09 01:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by away right now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really your mom's problem and not YOURS AT 13... but I understand and respect the situation.
Your brother seems to be fighting for attention (from mom). Can she try to find somehthing else to do for $$ that will take less time off her hands?
2007-02-09 01:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Avon Lady 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a teacher. Your mom is not doing your brother any good by doing all this for him. What she is doing is called "learned helplessness"...google it and show it to your mom.
2007-02-09 10:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom. tell a relative have you feel about it. people tell me to go stay with a family member (i dont have family members i can stay with)but if you do you should go and do it
2007-02-09 01:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by *babygirl* 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yell at him make him listen! is he like remedial ?(think how spelt)
2007-02-09 07:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by taytaymm28 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋