my ex boyfriend, the love of my life, and me were sneaking around cause he's dating some other girl cause his mom doesn't like me and she approves of this girl. we dated for 4 years and he's everything to me. i let it go though cause i don't feel like i should be the other woman, i should be the only woman, if he really loved me. i've done everything, but i feel like somethings not right. he is financially dependent on his mom and she's real controlling over him.its real sickening. and he hasn't made any effort to get a job and get moving. so i took a step back and im moving along, as best i can though it hurts so much. i know it will take time. its the smartest decision i've made =( i'd like some thoughts on my dilemma, keep them positive please. thanks
2007-02-08 16:41:54 · 11 answers · asked by latina ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-02-08 16:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are hurting, but you cannot be with someone who puts you aside. You should be first in his list besides his mom. Girl you can have so much going on for your self. It is a good thing you've moved on. You cannot hang around a guy that doesn't know how to treat you. Someone who does not have a future. He is a mama's boy and you know we all women need a man. Yes it is a smart decision and don't feel guilty because you are not. You are just making life better for yourself. You need someone to push you forward and not pull you backward. It hurts when you have to let go, but sometimes when you hold on to something, it is not the best thing to hold on to, so you have to let go. Be strong, you'll get through this.
2007-02-08 16:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by nedjine05 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever agree to be the Other Woman. It's degrading, humiliating, frustrating and definitely NO fun. He sounds like he's a Mommy's Boy. You don't need that, either.
Find yourself a Grown-Up Man and move on with your life.
You deserve to be the Only Woman!
2007-02-08 16:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by miri-miri-off-the-wall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made a very good choice. Soon in life as you move on and get somewhere in life and make it happen on your own, he will stilkl be at mommy's house doing nothing productive. as this happens and as each day passes you will fell less and less for him. one day you will look back and say what a looser. he let mommy control his life and before long she won't like that girl either. noone will be right for her boy and he will always be a mommy's boy. good move now go out and find you a real man. one who wants you and only you. get your future together and forget him. congrads.
2007-02-08 16:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great decision...I was with a guy who was going no where in life. He had no job, he had no drive to do something with his life. On top of that, he didn't treat me good.
You will find someone that will do anything for you and someone that you will be proud to marry. Just keep looking and don't settle for anything less than what makes you truly happy!
2007-02-08 16:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you sound like a very smart woman and it sounds like you are making a very wise decision as long as you stick with it. You deserve better and in the future you will look back and thank yourself you did.
2007-02-08 16:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sxoxo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is "Good for you!" The hurt will fade in time. Just don't look back. Look forward to a bright future.
2007-02-08 17:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go out a lot, party, always stay bussy & do things that you love doing, talk to other guys & you'll forget him fast, I know. Dont think about him.
2007-02-08 16:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
smart,girlfriend,very smart
he sounds like a looser
and you are absolutely right you shouldnt be the other woman you should be the only woman,if he really loved you
move on and find someone who supports their self
2007-02-08 17:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it was a good descision, even if it was a painfull one, but a good one
obviously if he is dependant on his mom, then he would be dependant on you once you guys moved in together and he would not contribute to the household fairly
2007-02-08 16:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋