my hubby listens to his family not me?

Question

i want my hubby to listen to what i have to say instead of ignoring me we're having problems with his mother cuz shes a crazy woman, he listens to her complaints about me but when i try to clear up the lies he tells me to shut up and that he doesnt want to hear my garbage about his family, i get sad cus he doesnt believe me when i didnt do anything, the mother inlaw does this so he stops speaking to me she loves it when we fight and not talk to each other, alot of people told me i can bring him towards me by sex is this true?

Answer 1

you should use what they call 'reverse psychology' tell him one thing when you mean something else so he could actually believe what you are saying. if he likes to argue, then just walk away so he will get upset and know that you aren't in the mood to talk to anyone. he should listen to you in the first place since the two of you are a couple - not him and his mom. I know it sounds stupid, but your husband and your mother are not married - you and your husband are. If he keeps ignoring you, leave the house for several hours at a time so he could pay more attention to you. Do you know what he likes to eat and drink? Don't make them and make your favorite foods. He would bound to listen to you at some point if you did this.

Answer 2

This is the common problem btw a wife n her mother-in-law. Ur hubby is a filial guy therefore he listens to her more than he listens to u. What u need to do now is nt to rebutt him since he will onli gets angry if u talks bad on his family. This will onli prove whateva ur mother-in-law has said as right.

Change a strategy by being nice to his family. His mum will change her opinion on u n he will understand that u wasnt those woman whom his mum had told him so. After that, u can choose to move out with him. Best wishes. =)

Answer 3

First of all "GOOD LUCK!!!"

Leave and don't look back--BUT--

Okay--how long have you been married? I tried for years with a mommas boy like that--you will never measure up to her, My mother-in-law tried to lie bout everything. When her dad died she told me she only wanted her"family" there when I showed up with her grandson she told me we didn't count as "family". She would also complain to my hubby that I did nothing was lazy--etc...the last straw was when she tried to run me over with her car--literally--he saw it--was right there--still defended his mom--was so done. I was his wife--the mother of his children--some guys--for whatever reason can't cut the apron strings.

I got into a new relationship after my div--same thing--momma's boys--so I ended it.

Not true about sex--that is physical for them--but I swear they are still thinking about either their mom with that or else thinking about how they are getting back at their mom getting close to another woman--always about their "first love".
I have 3 boys and want them to find someone-not controlling at all-so I know what I am talking about.

Answer 4

Sex is NOT the answer. This happens in a lot of families and it will be difficult to stop without your husband getting mad. Just show your husband that you care about him and don't say bad things about his mother. Best to stay away from any conversation and contact with her. Good Luck

Answer 5

Sex won't solve your disputes, especially since your mother in law seems to be the primary cause of your marital problems. You need to be the bigger, more mature person in this situation. Making rude comments towards his mom (regardles of what she has said about you) is not going to help matters; it will just make things worse. What kind of lies does she tell him about you? He should have a mind of his own and not believe what isn't true. I suggest you go out of your way to be nice to her. (Ask her for a recipe, buy her something small she could find useful and/or enjoy, etc.) Only you know your mother in law and what kind of things she would appreciate. My fiance's mom is very kind to me and very supportive of her son and I's relationship, so it definitely helps. In the meantime while you are doing nice things for her, talk to your husband and tell him you wish you could get along better with his mom and ask him for suggestions of what you could say or do that would bring you closer to her. He should want you to have a good relationship with her. As far as how to bring your husband towards you, it's the small things that count (cooking for him, leaving him cute notes, letting him know how much you love him, etc.) With Valentine's Day coming up, most couples are in the mood to be extra romantic, anyhow. For some ideas of what you can do for him, check out this site: http://www.romantic-tips.com/

Best of luck.

Answer 6

You poor dear. I went through something like this some years ago. Except, it was the whole family against me. It was really tough. People can be very selfish and immature. Your mother in law is an emotional bully. Your husband is very insensitive. I prayed and the lord helped me. I suggest you do the same. People say this is very common, and it may be. But, it can be hell. One thing, I will say is that in time you will see people get theirs, I sure have.

Answer 7

Your mother in law sounds like she hasn't given him up as a little boy and is making things difficult for you , so that she gets the attention she needs.Your husband is a Mama's boy,so this is tough.Sex will help but it is clear that your husband does not respect you.you cannot be told to shut up.You are his WIFE.If he wanted his mother as a wife, he should not be married to you or anyone.Try not to defend yourself.Either go with your husband to counseling or go stay with a relative until he comes to his senses.You seem sweet.I hope you find a man to appreciate you.

Answer 8

That's absolutely ridiculous! I know someone who went through the exact same thing (and they ended up getting divorced...eek). Sometimes that happens with me and my boyfriend. His family is really close and he always thinks his mom is right. He hates when I tell him she's wrong. But he would never tell me to shut up.

I hope the part about bringing him towards you with sex is a joke. Don't do that. He doesn't deserve to have sex with you. Tell him about your concerns. I think that works best. He may not realize how much this hurts you.

Answer 9

I think this is just a common factor in marriage. You might call it part and parcel of marital life. Just imagine a lady bringing up his son with much love and care and one fine morning she finds herself second best to her son's wife. It is only natural and normal for the woman to feel bad when her dotted son spends more time with his wife. (Before he used to come running to his mother with his problems and shares his joys too). When, his mother tells lies to your husband start trying not to react ( which is of course, difficult ) Try to give her small gifts and always make her think she is important. You will see the change within no time. It was my experience. Good luck

Answer 10

NO, sex will only last until the next problem arises the two of you need to seriously talk before someone is looking at divorce papers. let him know once again how you feel. let him know you married him not his mom. the two of you are on a journey not you him and mom. understand a women can get a man to do almost anything but you have to know how to deliver it and learn some new moves in bed, do not depend on sex but know how to use it.