what does it mean when you have a strong feeling, a feeling that your not going to make it in life?

Question

that its going to end in tears? im really trying to fight for the life i want, im 29 a struggling through psychiatric problems. i struugle on alone with no friends, living in a small flat on my own. im having the stong feeling or instinct at the moment that things arnt going to be okay..a bad feeling about the way ahead, that my dreams wont happen..my dreams of finding somebody nice. a nice girl. living in my own home with her. emmegration somewhere nice, achieving a good job...i feel a dread in my heart and a sad realisation its not going to happen...i feel ive already left things to late, im 29 &never done anything with my life, except suffer, get bullied throughout school, taunted & teased, i never had chance to develop propally, form friendships, social development never happened. i dropped out of school at 16 & decended into mental illness.im hoping these feelings i have are just symptoms of my low mood..but i dont no..im not holding out any hopes.im worried my dreams wont happen

my only release from this nightmare i live might only be in the way of mr grim reaper...i feel trapped where iam in the north of the uk in this small crappy flat..isolated and alone, in a cold dark empty vacum, similar to outer space..with this intense forboding feeling that things wont happen for me...my vice like grip on life is loosening, im growing tired, i wanna let go

dear god why has thou forsaken me...

in the end everybody that was for jesus turned against him, persecuted him, humiliated him. stood him infront of the crowd, to face a crowd who yelled ' crucify jesus' my lord i know how you must of felt, for i, right now feel just like you did..

Answer 1

Its no good just hoping your dreams are going to come true....you've got to work hard to make them happen if you want them so bad....

We are the same age and my life has changed alot in the last four years so for several reasons and all for the better......

I went through some hard times almost losing my own life in a bad car crash then 5 years later losing my brother also in a bad car crash......

after that i have strived to make every moment of my life mean something and have been working towards a better life ever since....

Please don't leave it until life really gives you a real big slap round the face to wake you up and make every minute of your life count for something you are working towards......

All that is left to say now is YOU CAN DO IT all you have to do is believe you can.......

Answer 2

You sound like you're really having a bad time at the moment, but that doesn't mean it always has to be this way. I know it's very hard to motivate yourself when you're so low, but you need to give yourself a shake up and make positive steps to improving your life. Don't look at it as a whole, that's just too big to deal with in one go - pick one area and make a change. Then pick another and so on. If you feel that joining a club or starting a new hobby is too daunting, see what voluntary work is available in your community - you could help at a charity shop, a youth club or an old people's home. This way you would meet people, fill your days with something worthwhile and also, it looks great on a CV - you said you wanted a job. You'll probably find there are a lot of people worse off than you, and you could make a real difference to their lives - helping someone else really does make you feel good about yourself. If you want to go overseas, see if you can get a place on a Kibbutz, or helping children in Africa - the beauty of going somewhere new is that you can reinvent yourself - pick someone you admire, and act like them! At 29 your life is far from over. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hello Derek - please don't feel so bad, a lot of the time those thoughts that are going through your head are not telling you the truth.

Please go back to your doc and ask about doing some courses on stress, self esteem, or anything else you can think of that you think you might enjoy, it will get you out of the house, you will come into contact with other people and you can learn again to value yourself.

Every person on the planet has a right to be here, invariably we all get down periods but that doesn't mean it will always be that way.

Why not take a course at college that may be useful to you, re finding work in UK and overseas, this too will give you an interest as well as get you out of the house and mixing with other people.

Take a little walk to your nearest library and see what self help books they have.

There is a Mood Gym you can partake in on-line too, but I do think your doing some sort of course away from your home environment will be good for you. As well as the :
http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/ training.

Hope you will feel better about yourself real soon.

Good wishes to you fellow traveller.

Answer 4

Derick old son you've got it real bad and i feel for you I know the feeling i had when i left the army after the war the experiences sent me into a deep depression but listen to me although it wont seem possible to you right now you will come through it with a positive attitude to everything you do and you must have psychiatric help and ECT if necessary it played a part with me and today I see the lovely world that it is from the black one i saw many years ago and so can you so Head high and when you get bad thoughts turn them around// you will make it I KNOW YOU WILL and there's a nice lady out there waiting for you

Answer 5

Derek.
Just because you feel alone and that nobody cares does not mean that it is true. Many people on this site care what happens to you but the only one who can make a difference is you. I am sure that you know psychiatric problems to be a form of illness and not a problem with your development which would be psychological.
Mental illness effects the chemistry of the brain or the way the brian reacts to stimuli and the way that you feel is the illness effecting your reasoning. The strong feeling that you have is also probably prompted by the illness rather than your reason.
Never believe that it is too late to start over. I emigrated aged 42, changed continents again at age 47, again at 51 and again this year at 54. I am an expert at starting over from originally UK, then Australia, Thailand, Russia and now Thailand again. I remarried at age 53 to a woman 34 years younger than me. I have divorced twice and left them with everything and started over with a blank sheet and whatever money is in my pocket.
You can do whatever you want, but only when you have beaten your mental illness. I suffer from depression but have learnt to differentiate my real feelings from those caused by depression. It is not easy but it can be done. I do not know what you are suffering from but you definitely cannot beat it by giving up. Work with the professionals and they will guide you through this and what you make of yourself after that is entirely up to you. Everything is possible.

Answer 6

I have been where you are now. I suffered from Schizophrenia for 30 years and felt like you do now a lot of the time. I do sympathise, it is 'effing horrible! There ARE people who care, even if you do not reailise it. Do you have any sort of Psychiatric drop-in where you are? (I assume you are in the UK) They can help a bit. By drop-in, I mean the National Schizophrenia Fellowship or MIND, they run drop-ins for folks like us. Have a look in the phone book, they are not perfect but are there for you.
I know a lot about lost dreams, that is about the worst of this illness, one can see how you would like life to be, a nice woman by your side, a decent job and a good family, it tears your dreams out of your heart and strews bitter ashes in its wake.
I know you will not believe me, but there IS a road out of this. I did not believe it when I was as you are now, but it does exist. I got slowly better by hanging in there and not letting it do me in (In a figure of speech) keeping on keeping on.
I do feel for you my friend, don't give up, you do have friends who know you are worth something. Peace, love and light from Tim.

Answer 7

I used to feel the same way. I stayed in a crappy flat in Scotland with no hope. Dont give up, my life was complete crap until I reached 35 then everything completely changed and the things I thought I'd missed in life started to become true. The best advice I can give you is to try your best to expand your circle of friends from all walks of life. It is only then that your life will change. A change of life will not come knocking at your door.
Hold in there buddy, there are folk out there that care about you, including me.

Answer 8

Gotta take a risk. go out there see what you can do. You might fail u might not and if you fail it awful I know u Will beat yourself up over it but try again. Take small steps though. like wear your hair different wear a color you normally do not wear. Do something nice for someone like hold a door open. Pay it forward then luck might come your way.

Answer 9

firstly bad feelings are something that is happened in your life past and this is what your brain is doing feeding you these bad feelings. a brain takes in lots of information and sometimes we lock out good memories and these just flow over the bad never stored. my advise to you is thinking good things of your life and fill that brain up with them then they will overall the bad and life will change for you. It is very hard to do this but give it a go please.
we all like to live in the pain body as its the unknown we are not sure of in the good as we all think bad will follow.

Answer 10

come on derek you have to go out ,join a club look at some of the answers you got ( theoffice ) said hold your head high ( britboard ) said its no good just hoping you have to make dreams happen and janny c said gotta take a risk go out there see what you can do.. so take that risk join a club and you will find someone nice IT WILL HAPPEN