We've been together for five months and things are going really well. The difficult thing is, next year both of us are going away for grad school - he is going to Toronto for law school and I am staying in Vancouver for med school. These cities are almost 3000 miles away, and it scares me that we will be so far apart. The thing is, it took him a long time to get up the courage to tell me that he loves me (he was waiting for me to tell him first). I'd rather he bring up our future, but I'd like to be secure that he wants to be long-term with me as well.
2007-02-08 16:08:03 · 8 answers · asked by sachi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you'd better not rush into things based on ur own feelings and expectations. let it all just go with the flow. or you might regret saying something that'll scare him off. you should also be aware of the risks a long distance relationship has. and have an open mind about stuff. commitments and promises before parting usually become a burden for both of you, coz you never know who you might meet. The best thing to lock this relationship down is to be supportive and trusting. And if you two are meant to be then.... it'll all fall into place.
2007-02-08 16:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by sk|TTLes™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been to Vancouver...it's gorgeous! well, regarding your question...you have a close bond...you love each other and you are both taking care of the present by getting an education..for your future. It's nice to know you are loved, go about with your studies and write and call each other often. be encouraging to each other and supportive and lots of praise. make your chats fun and loving and somethign to look forward to. you can tell him what you want with him. why do you think you shouldnt...tell your guy. he maybe be thinking the same thing. I wish you well. peace
2007-02-08 16:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3000 miles is scary. time will tell. perhaps, have some form of commitment that you will go see the other every year, or that you all will settle at the same place once law school/medical school is over. LDR is couple's scariest nightmare.
2007-02-08 16:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes go ahead and talk with him about it and if you are ready then get engaged BUT wait for marriage until after grad school is all i can say. If it is meant to be it will last if not then life goes on.
2007-02-08 16:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for the right time-
and then ask him where
he sees the relationship going
once the two of you are apart-
If you really love one another-
you will find away to make it work
no matter how far apart the two of you are.
Good Luck*
2007-02-08 16:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust,if you had a future together he/she wouldve let you know before yall even got involed. he/she would have and should have made his/her intentions known when you first met.
if he hasnt brought it up than he hasnt thought about it. and it doesnt count if he just does it because he thinks your gonna break up with him. ultimatums really dont work beacause, thinkl about it do you want to have to make someone marry you?
if he really loved you he would want to make you all his.
he can tell you he wants you all he wnats but it dont mean nothing until he shows it.
2007-02-08 16:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bring it up casually. "How do you see our future playing out?" Let him answer. Don't offer.
Meanwhile, look for good schools near where he's going. But keep that quiet too.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 17:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel. honesty is the best answer trust me. good luck
2007-02-08 16:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by stunt101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋