My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. We live about 260 miles apart. He has never really treated me well and my friends have been telling me that for awhile. Now, my family is starting to say the same thing to me too. I broke up with him. Now he is willing to change...and has started to change. He still loves me and will do anything for me. His family LOVES me. And I still care about him but don't know if I love him like I use to. I've given him many, many chances and don't know if I should give him another(b/c I feel that it's too late for him to change and to start treating me good). But, I also feel if I don't give him another chance that I'll regret it. I also don't want to disappoint my family and friends. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.
2007-02-08 16:04:27 · 7 answers · asked by a5r5trgirl531 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think in your heart you already know what to do. You need to leave him. The first year of any relationship should be full of love and joy not full of mistreatments. If he didn't treat you well in the beginning, how is he going to treat you after 5 years of marriage and two kids?? Think about it.
2007-02-08 16:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mimita 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never NEVER get involved with a person with the thought that they will eventually change, especially if you are thinking of marriage. It just doesn't happen. Take the things you don't like about them and multiply it 100 times. THAT is what it will be like when you are married to them.
Don't waste precious time on this relationship. You'll definitely know the right one when he comes along and you won't have to be on Yahoo asking this question.
2007-02-08 16:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get married the woman thinks the man will change (he won't) and the man hopes the woman will never change (and she does). Find someone else who will treat you right and not be a "work in progress". Marriage is difficult enough without starting out working on changing behanior.
2007-02-08 16:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's had many chances. You can't get together with someone hoping they'll change. That's a recipe for disaster. If he's truly changed, let him prove it BEFORE getting back together. Take your time and let him work for it. If it becomes too hard and he quits, then all the changing in the world won't make him worthy of you.
2007-02-08 16:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by obladiblada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make it short....Your family and friends are usually right. They see many things you do not as I have experienced. Give it up and take a different path. You'll thank yourself further down the line.
2007-02-08 16:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by KIDD3422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me listen to your family. they are probably right. atleast mine was! i still did not listen now i am divorced with 2 children and dead beat dad!
2007-02-08 17:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to them and look at the whole guy not just the cute and lovable stuff. ;)
2007-02-08 16:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by BlueEyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋