What I mean is, can you talk about it at work, to straight friends and family, etc. without it being controversial or a big screaming deal?
I can, now. I can joke about the UPS girl being cute or say I'm going out to lunch with my wife. But in other jobs, I've been told I'm "brave" to say I'm going to lunch with my girlfriend, if you can believe that! Or some straight people want to act like it's serious all the time, and only talk about bad things that can happen to LGBTs, even if they think they're "supportive."
What are your experiences?
2007-02-08 15:43:42 · 7 answers · asked by GreenEyedLilo 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Trust me, if they "think" they're being supportive; in their way, they probably ARE. What I mean is, to them they are being far more accepting and PROGRESSIVE than most people they know. And they may have to work at it. What we gay people have to understand is even if we feel betrayed that this person "has to try" to like us, 1) at least they're trying, and 2) they were unable to control the way they were raised and the ideas that formed them. If it takes a while to help them conform to new ideas, lets help them. They (converts) are usually our strongest allies. Just give people a chance.
2007-02-08 16:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is definitely a casual way to be gay... but it's kind of hard to do if you're hung up on your own insecurities. It's awesome that you can joke about it and stuff at work. I also sort of think that those people who said you were brave to talk about it were right; I refuse to talk about it at work, except with a couple of close friends. Everyone else thinks I'm straight. I'm sure they're all very accepting, but I don't want to take that chance, because if you happen to tell the wrong person at work...that person could make life very difficult for you, and you could easily end up losing your job. So, yes, it is brave to talk about it at work, even if you are confident enough to be casual about it...you just have to be careful.
2007-02-09 00:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm always casual... never had a screaming match with anyone about it, although i have witnessed my girlfriend have one with her mother over her calling me her roommate again. people really don't care all that much, i've found. or if they do, they keep it to themselves.
i guess i've always been surrounded by supportive people, or at least people who avoid conflict.
2007-02-09 00:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by scruffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is gay and I see it all the time, it is really sad how people speak to you differently when they know. But hey that's on them!
2007-02-08 23:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right for you.Only my close friends know.I feel it is personal choice if you want to share that information.
2007-02-10 01:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by C E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lucky to be where you are now, keep it open and out and stick with the job.
2007-02-08 23:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? Be yourself. If you are uncertain about yourself, it will show through. Be honest to yourself and screw the rest of them.
2007-02-08 23:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋