me and my g/f have been dating for 6years i ask her to marry me at the 5 year mark she said yes and a couple of months went by and ii mess up i lied about money we broke up for a couple of mounths and got back together a couple of month ago she told me she need time she says wants to be more independent im for that i think thats great but the problem is she does not want to talk to me or spend time with me she says she love me all she does is go to her coworker house and spend time there i really dont mind but there is one guy she works with that like her and she think he is cool too i dont know what to do i love her with all my heart i have ring for her do i ask her to marry me again or just let it go im afraid if i do thing she will leave me but i dont want to push her out of my life either we both have messed up in hte past 6years i have forgave her i guess i just looking for advise thank oyu
2007-02-08 15:32:29 · 9 answers · asked by rob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ive been at the same predicament b4 but the diference is im lyk ur girl... the one who's confusing you... you see sumtyms people grow apart aft so many yrs of being togethr.. sumthin to do with novelty.. and the new guy offers her that.. u have to give her tym agn and improve urself. find sum new interests.. this way she myt find u more exciting and interesting...
2007-02-08 15:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by mica_babe88 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have hurt her in the past then she just may be scared of getting close to you again real fast or soon. Give her the time to heal and to get past what you have done to her in the past. Give her some space and do not push or rush her or you just may end up losing her for good. Just be thankful that she took you back and is giving it another chance with you. She has a big heart and i dont know if i could do what she is doing if it were me in this situation. If she is meant to be for you then it will work out and you have to trust that it will BUT if she ends up walking away over time then you need to move on with your life and try again someday with some one new. I know this is hard for you but this is the reality of it. tell her how you feel and why but dont push or rush her into anything. Just let her be for now and let her be in control.
2007-02-08 23:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but I think you should move on, it's going to hurt for some time, But look at the facts she know you missed up and so did she, and she has asked for space and time, and she know how you fill about her, and you still want to marry her! And she not trying to communicate with you read the signs guy move for now you have a life to live you can't wait 10 years for her to come around and say yes I'll marry you now.
Good luck and happy hunting.
Good luck and happy hunting.
2007-02-08 23:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by choiceav 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advise:
she already has taken the saddle out of the barn and she is looking at other horses.
I would consider dating other women. She has very little interest in you right now and I don't think the meter will go up anytine soon.
2007-02-08 23:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hang it up, she is keeping you around to punish you for lying. She doesn't want to get back together with you for ever. She has another interest. Sorry but your not it. You messed up. You lied. So end it and move on. learn from this one.
2007-02-08 23:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. It sounds like she's finished with you and working on the coworker. You need a fresh start.
2007-02-08 23:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by m k 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about your seriousness to maintain married relations with her I hope she will also respect your views & you both will lead a happy married life.
2007-02-08 23:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by P S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you lied and it broke her heart and when you guys broke up she was basically free and fell out of love with you because she seen guys out there that are better than you because they didn't lie to her so there you are, she doesn't want to spend time with you because she doesn't love you anymore and she likes her coworker
time for you to move on, and next time remember, DON'T LIE
2007-02-08 23:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
pray....prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives......Jesus loves you
2007-02-08 23:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋