My boyfriend (who is 24) of almost a year mentioned to me (I am 22) last night that our sexual chemistry together is off the charts, and I agreed, stating that it was a wonderful complement to the other great parts of our relationship, and he agreed with me.
Then, he looked me straight in the eye, pulled my face toward his, and said really seriously and softly, "I can see myself having sex with, and only you, for the rest of my life."
Of course, I thought this was incredibly sweet and romantic, and I would never question his sincerity. I suppose my question, then, is:
Does this imply anything? From what I know, for most men, it is a HUGE wall to overcome, realizing that if they marry a woman, they will not be having sex with anyone but her for the rest of their lives. Thus, I am curious, is this a sign that he is considering something a bit more serious (ie: proposing?) for our relationship?
Constructive advice is very much appreciated!
2007-02-08 15:28:49 · 14 answers · asked by GeorgiaDawgsGirl 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Not most men, just some. I was wild before my wife and never since, and that has been a while
2007-02-08 15:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree that most men find fidelity an obstacle. In truth most men crave a faithful relationship. On purely practical levels for a woman she always knows that the child she gave birth to is hers whereas a man can only know that in a monogamous relationship. Equally, most men don't believe that sex outside of a relationship when a relationship exists is worth the potential side-effects. Simply the risk of loosing what I have is too great a price to pay for gratification of the belief that the sexual encounter would be fulfilling especially when they already understand that the reality will fall far short of the fantasy they are trying to satisfy.
If he is visualizing a monogamous sexual relationship with you as being a desirable future I would suggest that he is certainly thinking about following that course in reality. My guess is that marriage is a high probability.
2007-02-08 15:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by John B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For most guys it is, when they find that one girl who rocks their world so much...they don't want tolook for someone else..thats the key..not that they can't look for someone else..they don't WANT too.
So, my guess is that in his mind..he's not looking for the "out" so to speak and is more than HAPPY about being with YOu for the rest of his life. I know my BF said the same thing only in a different way, and 3 years later here we are with a daughter, and one hell of a sex life.
2007-02-08 17:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope for your sake that he is sincere, and if so I would assume that it means he's looking seriously at a long-term future with you. Probably sounding you out.
The cynic in me, however, would suggest caution. My partner did the whole "I want to marry you and have babies" thing just to keep me hanging for a while, just to keep me doing the nice stuff for him. He has no intention of getting married and has taken the issue of children to be his sole decision and abandoned it in favour of raising calves instead. (Yeah, I'm thrilled) Just be aware that sometimes they mean something, say it, and then change their minds after we've set our hearts on it. And wonder why we cry.
Good luck, I hope he's one of the good ones!
2007-02-08 16:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by CheeseFest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You women sometimes read too much into something and sometimes too little. This is the too little time. From a man, that is the intimation of a proposal; a feeler, if you will. Respond in a positive maner if you want that proposal, but, remember, a man proposes in his own good time.
2007-02-08 15:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that you are making a mountain out of a molehill.
Stop second guessing the mind of your Lover. Get focused on your Education and your Career and take life as it comes.
2007-02-08 15:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by fatsausage 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate his sincerity with the statement, "I can see myself having sex with, and only you, for the rest of my life," but think about if one of your friends had told you a guy said that to her. It seems a little shady, doesn't it? I hate to question his motive, but I can't help it.
Did you give into desire? If so, how did he act afterwards?
2007-02-08 15:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by theslam2005 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him. If it does mean something, I would hope he's not basing his entire future with you off of the sexual chemistry you have.... I think in most cases, that kind of intensity doesn't last years and years.
2007-02-08 15:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by Elysia 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you shouldnt' stress yourself asking this question.. accept the love for what it is, and let things flow naturally. I think he thinks your the best thing that has ever happened to him, in this time of his life, and you should appreciated it without questions!.. If he asks, let yourself be surprised.. why do you want to disect it? It would be a whole lot nicer if when the time comes around, that your actually surprised! :) And hopefully in love. :))
Happy Valentines Day!! :)
2007-02-08 15:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by MOON13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will Never say Never again...
I have made too many commitments I never kept.
It is easy to say things, It is much harder to actually do them.
So, I can only try and realize things happen that can change.
(Since it is sweet and romantic)
I have always wanted my marriage vow to go something like this...
I want to live with you
I want to die with you
I want to smile with you
I want to cry with you.
through thick and thin
through sun and rain
through joy and pain.
I want to marry you
I want to see eye to eye with you
and if we can't see eye to eye
I want the opportunity to divorce you.
I want you in my life, to be part of my life.
But, most of all, I want to thank you for giving me
the opportunity to share my life with you.
This I ask this of you.
(Still a work in progress... sniff sniff)
2007-02-08 15:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋