My boyfriend (who is 24) of almost a year mentioned to me (I am 22) last night that our sexual chemistry together is off the charts, and I agreed, stating that it was a wonderful complement to the other great parts of our relationship, and he agreed with me.
Then, he looked me straight in the eye, pulled my face toward his, and said really seriously and softly, "I can see myself having sex with, and only you, for the rest of my life."
Of course, I thought this was incredibly sweet and romantic, and I would never question his sincerity. I suppose my question, then, is:
Does this imply anything? From what I know, for most men, it is a HUGE wall to overcome, realizing that if they marry a woman, they will not be having sex with anyone but her for the rest of their lives. Thus, I am curious, is this a sign that he is considering something a bit more serious (ie: proposing?) for our relationship?
Constructive advice is very much appreciated!
2007-02-08 15:28:20 · 9 answers · asked by GeorgiaDawgsGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Back when I was your boyfriend's age (I won't say how long ago it has been), when I thought of proposing to a young lady, I thought and spoke of a home and children, of building a life together, of love and commitment and not so much of sex. Sex is a good and natural part of a healthy and happy relationship and marriage but it isn't something one really thinks or speaks about when one is inspired to propose marriage.
When our group of several couples were sitting on a beautiful beach in Antigua, sipping Piña Colada , watching the sunset and listening to Latin music drifting down from the the bar in the back of our hotel; one of the guys exclaimed:"I can see myself living on this island for the rest of my life, just lying here on this beach doing nothing". When his wife asked:"How about me and the kids, your dental practice and your mom in the nursing home ?". He replied:" I was just dreaming out loud. You know I didn't actually mean it, not literally...".
Likewise, I've also heard diners exlaimed after a fantastic meal:" I can see myself eating that same dish everyday and no where else but in this restaurant for the rest of my life!". Do you think they will do just that?
My advice is to ask your boyfriend just what he meant by what he said : ""I can see myself having sex with, and only you, for the rest of my life." Let him explain himself as you deserve an explanation. It might or might not mean anything but a guy's expression of appreciation for a good lay.
2007-02-08 21:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on marrying this guy then you monogamy is very important forever but if you are not going to marry him why is he worried about this right now. Are you and he serious and wanting to get married? He may be thinking of marriage with you is what i am thinking. It may be his way of starting to tell you so. Ask him why he said it and what he meant by it and see what he has to say. I wish you the best. Do you love him and how do you feel about spending the rest of your life with him. Are you ready for this kind of commitment and monogamy?
2007-02-08 15:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, a huge wall, you are both young but he loves you--it is totally possible for a man to realize he just wants sex--if it is great--with just one woman--he will look --as men do-- but think about you. Sexual chemistry is great to have--it will bring you over the other hardships life will bring--kids, money issues, in-laws etc... if you love him as much as he loves you--he is a keeper. Just tell him you love him and don't pressure him and bring it up when asking him about anything more serious.
Tell him you loved him telling you his feelings "the other night" and you feel the same--if you do.
2007-02-08 15:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Got news flash dear.. we aren't meant to be monogamous its not within the human nature for man or woman .. I would hope it would be true and wish for your sake but its a fairy tale it normally happens openly or together or hidden sooner or later..Its almost impossible unless he and you wear chastity belts but then there are locksmiths.. really if you are thinking he is telling you he will be true .. i would start laughing in his face ,not happening and well its just human nature..I know there are many that claim i would never do this ,and well physically maybe not but mentally they will over and over maybe they dont have the guts to do it in real life or maybe it will happen when they least expect it but it says in the bible and not that im trying to bring religion into it but says if you commit it in your mind then you have already done it..To that question you asked all i can say is bah humbug .. its fantasy ..
2007-02-08 19:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's thinking about a future with you. But until he pops the question, continue to view things in a realistic way. Time will tell.
2007-02-08 15:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he can see himself doing a lot of things if he has a brain and an imagination. dudes say all kinds of crap before marraige. i did, and after 11 years of it i am ready to bolt, not for new sex, but for someone who gives a rat's a s s about what i have to offer to this "relationship"
2007-02-08 15:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its (seriously) Increadibly BULLSHIT.. he dosent mean it any more than you do in the long term..
Oh it sounds nice NOW.. BUT ITS NOT REALISTIC....
Love?? That I wont dispute.. thats totally possible...
Sexual monogamy? That i will.. its not realistic.. him or you.. thats just plain stupid actually (ia can give you references even.. if you dont mind talking to em by email)
2007-02-08 15:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it seem that way, you will just have to wait and see.
Make sure you have decided what you want.
2007-02-08 15:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by older mum 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, don't jump the gun.
2007-02-08 23:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋